Overcoming narcissist Abuse, by Elizabeth Shaw.
Types of a narcissist, There are lots of words out there describing, different narcissistic personality types, so here’s a quick summary of some, there is a longer individual post about them, already on this page, and more to go on. Narcissistic people enjoy playing chess with peoples emotions and lives.
Narcissist wants emotions any emotions, positive or negative, to be loved or to be feared when it comes to narcissistic people their worst fear is to be ignored.
The narcissistic personality disorder is on a spectrum, they all have different assets, although these will cross over, depending on who they are using them on.
Some are extremely intelligent, others are not so much. Some play victim most of the time others not so much, some have stunning looks, some not so much, they are all individuals, yet the ex’s all have the same story’s to tell, it’s almost like narcissist work from the same book, and with the traits they have, they do.
Not everyone who is intelligent or not so much, etc, is a narcissist, they do have to have the traits to go with it.
Some are extremely dangerous, others are not. All are mentally abusive to those around them. Some use physical violence in abundance, some will pull hair, spit in your face or slap you, others will not resort to physical violence, some will damage positions others will not.
Somatic, parade their body and looks and brag about their physical selves. Brags about their sexual conquests. They exploit their body’s to gain the attention of others that they crave so badly.
Cerebral narcissist pretends to know it all, they use all their knowledge, real or fake and all their intellect, real or fake. The maintenance of their body is a chore they can not be bothered with, so they use real of fake intelligence to get the attention they crave from those around them.
If the narcissists do love it only themselves, if they are with the same sex or opposite sex, in an intimate relationship, they prefer meeting their own needs and housing the other person, the other person is just an extension of themselves to fill a void that they can not do for themselves.
Classic the grandiose, they know everything, it’s their way or the high way, these are the ones your most likely to read about, self-centred, arrogant, full of charm, often having lots of supporters around them.
Malignant, the most pathological and, hurtful of all narcissists, they have no sense of their inner worth, meaning they are full of rage and extremely vindictive, they are extremely dangerous and will stop at nothing to harm others, they are extremely unstable and often unstoppable, they will encourage others to fight on their behalf, they are extremely impulsive, they have no empathy or guilt, taking lots of rash hurting actions towards others, they have an unmitigated rage within themselves. They have the ability to change reality for millions of people, their crazy internal reality, makes those around them believe that crazy reality, in the millions of allowed to do so. They have no limits and there is nothing they will not do to serve themselves,
Introverted or Covert, is harder to identify, they are very fragile, very ashamed people, extremely sensitive to setbacks and criticism, they are very woe is me, and they’ve suffered more than anybody else, extremely envious and jealous not understanding why others get stuff they do not. They can be passive aggressive and they can be very antisocial. They will continually nag if they work, they often change jobs fast, they get bored very easily, they are extremely lazy.
Extroverted or Overts, believe they have a right to everything and anything. Arrogant, self-centred, no empathy, believing they are special and above everyone else, they are better than all those around them. No respect, stubborn and self-centred.
Communal, they seem to sacrifice themselves for others, very community oriented, coming across as good people, they can winge and whine, they need praise for all that they do, they are passive-aggressive, controls you by giving you things, will happily trip you up, so they can claim they picked you back up. They seem on the outside to work so hard, and so so much for others, yet their true behaviour is textbook narcissism. They are a backhanded do-gooder, may appear to listen and help others, they are actually helping themselves. They will always let you know why charity they’ve been to, how many people they’ve helped etc, they are after the attention and praise.
Inverted, vulnerable, covert narcissist.
Some researchers have identified a special type of covert, vulnerable narcissist called an inverted narcissist. These narcissists are thought to be codependent. They seek to attach themselves to other narcissists to feel special, and are only satisfied or happy when they are in relationships with other narcissists. They are victim-narcissists who suffer from childhood abandonment issues.
They can either be.
The lesser, who don’t seem to have much going for them, yet still draw people in, these can be violent as they don’t have much control over their anger.
The midrange, often using silent treatment and, pity play to win people over.
The grand, usually know what they are, often more calculating and cunning in all that they do.
You can not help a narcissist, they can not help themselves, you’ve probably tried countless times, just losing yourself more each time, walk free and surround yourself with positive people.