The Malignant Narcissist.

Malignant meaning, evil in nature or effect, being around narcissists often has many negative effects on you, from emotional, mental, physical, financial, psychological and spiritual.

As far as I’m aware, The malignant Narcissist isn’t an official diagnosis. The term was coined by psychologist Erich Fromm, who was a German Jew and fled the Nazi regime and settled in the USA he describes the malignant as.

“The most severe pathology and the root of the most vicious destructiveness and inhumanity”.

Signs of a malignant narcissist.

  • Evil in nature or effect.
  • Superficial charm.
  • Relentlessly aggressive.
  • Pathological liar.
  • Sadism.
  • Deliberately causing suffering to others.
  • Antisocial behaviour.
  • Little to no empathy.
  • Zero responsibility.
  • No remorse.
  • Extreme envy.
  • Abrupt mood swings.
  • Superior.
  • Arrogant.

The most pathological and, hurtful of all narcissists, they have no sense of their inner worth, meaning they are full of rage and extremely vindictive, they are extremely dangerous and will stop at nothing to harm others, they are extremely unstable and often unstoppable, they will encourage others to fight on their behalf, they are incredibly impulsive, they have no empathy or guilt, taking lots of rash hurtful actions towards others, they have an excessive rage within themselves. They have the ability to change reality for millions of people, their crazy internal reality, makes those around them believe the narcissist’s crazy reality, in the millions if allowed to do so. They have no limits, and there is nothing they will not do to serve themselves.

The malignant narcissist is extremely arrogant and self-centred. They have a very fragile, super-sensitive ego. They need to convince all others just how special they are, in order to feel better about themselves, they might not be aware of their sensitive ego, often they feel threatened in some way real or perceived. Hence, they just believe others are against them and do all they can to seek revenge on those the narcissist perceives to have turned against them.

The malignant narcissist is extremely envious and are pathological at holding grudges against others. They hate seeing others with something they haven’t got, or something they want, most often assuming it’s down to pure luck that others have achieved, the malignant narcissist can be pathological in trying to destroy someone they themselves are envious of.

The malignant narcissist has that sense of entitlement like most narcissists. They believe they are superior to others; not only do they expect to be treated as superior they often demand to be treated as superior. They believe they are entitled to do what they want, whenever they want, with whoever they want and whatever they want, as they believe they are above all others.

The malignant narcissist often has no empathy. Many actually get pleasure out of harming others, a complete lack of genuine compassion. They can act empathetically if they have Cognitive Empathy. They will show fake empathy to others, to deceive those around them in order to protect themselves, to get enablers and flying monkeys to protect them. People either love and respect them or genuinely fear them both will carry out their demands.

The malignant narcissist will exploit all others to get their needs met, with no thoughts or feelings to how it affects those around them. They need power and control and achieve this by coming across as a great saviour to people in the beginning. They will go all out to protect their enablers, not to protect their enablers in order to protects themselves, by getting enablers to feel obligated into defending and protecting the narcissist.

The malignant can show signs of antisocial behaviour. These are pathological liars. They have an unprovoked hostility and aggression towards others that they will blame on others. They can look for trouble, even pre-planning it. They will set others up for a fall, they will create drama and could conflict in those around them. They have volatile mood swings, they cheat, steal and lie, they believe they are above the law and are extremely dangerous and toxic.

The malignant narcissist can show signs of Paranoia. It’s not that they don’t trust those around them, because of how they think, they are extremely suspicious of all those around them, and believe all others are out to get them.

The malignant narcissist is extremely manipulative. These don’t wait to see an opportunity to manipulate others, although they will use an opportunity. They actively create opportunities, they genuinely go around looking for those they can take advantage of, they plan, and they plot to win at any and all costs to those around them.

The malignant can show signs of sadism they will deliberately cause, harm, suffering, pain and distress to others, often showing hatred. They enjoy seeing people, animal, anything suffers. They will knowingly inflict pain and suffering on those around, to gain control of others, or to just feel powerful. This can be psychological pain or physical pain.

Malignants will happily monopolies a conversation even with a large audience, often with flying monkeys and enablers in full support, and those who disagree with them are often too afraid to speak against them.

The malignant narcissist holds no responsibility for their own behaviour. However, some of the malignant narcissists can actually admit wrongdoing. Yet, they will openly admit to other what they have done, by telling others that the person they harmed deserved it, at other times they will deny all knowledge, to what they’ve done to others.

The malignant can be extremely charming, or ( superficial charm.) most narcissistic people can be charming, especially at first, as they put on that admiration face to draw people in, or they can be outright bully’s intimidating others, so no one dare speak up against them.

Moods swings, unprovoked they can be extremely volatile and aggressive.

How to deal with a malignant narcissist, don’t, gather as much help and support as you can, and not from mutual friends, get to safety, no one knows what lengths any narcissist will go to if they feel criticism or wronged by anyone, so always be careful, with a malignant never let them know you know, or you’re leaving, just get out safely.

1. Seek help and support in leaving if you suspect you are dealing with a malignant narcissist.

2. Remember they will not change; they do not have the self-awareness to change; it’s who they are. Don’t try to change them for who you want them to be, or who they said they’ ed be. Accepting who they are, and understanding you deserve better.

3. Have a healthy fear of them, so respect what they are capable of, and keep yourself safe, yes these people need bringing to justice, but you must be careful around them.

4. They see in extreme Black and white. You will not win an argument or disagreement with these people, they genuinely believe they are right, and not only are you wrong, you are an enemy if you go against them, with their paranoia they will see this as you going against them, and they do seek to destroy. Let them think they are right and leave them be.

5. Get support, do not be embarrassed about what you have been through you are far from alone, seeking support and talking to those who understand, helps you piece reality back together, know all those doubts, feelings, thoughts were real, that the reality you lived was real, validation that how you feel is normal, others do and have felt the same way, even those not dealing with malignant narcissists. Getting emotional support is a must also.

6. Do not isolate yourself, yes most of us like to go into hermit mode now and again, and that’s ok, but don’t stay stuck in hermit mode and don’t stay isolated.

7. Do not confront them. I’m all for justice. However, your safety comes first.

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One thought on “The Malignant Narcissist.

  1. My ex is a malignant narcissist. He is the most volatile and sadistic person I have ever known. He got off on my pain. It never mattered if it was physical or emotional, as long as I was in pain, he was happy.

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