Narcissistic people can be some of the most frustrating people you could ever have the misfortune of having to deal with. Their extreme pettiness is just one of their many irritating behaviours. Narcissists are envious. Therefore they can be incredibly spiteful and concern themselves with trivial matters that bare no importance to them.
A Narcissist will make a big deal out of nothing while claiming you make a big deal out of everything, and anything that is a big deal, a Narcissist will claim, “That’s not a big deal.” The narcissist’s projection.
We are all capable of being petty, especially when around petty people. However, with a narcissist, it’s a repeat pattern of behaviour. It’s a part of who they are.
With a narcissists’ hypocritical behaviour, they’ll expect you to ignore or forgive any and all of their repeated mistakes. At the same time, they continue to hold any and all of your mistakes against you. A narcissist will make your life as miserable as possible for you, as they lack the empathy to care about you while they stand there blaming everything on you.
Here are 13 examples of the narcissist’s petty behaviour.
Petty people can be some of the worst listeners you could ever meet, as they’re not interested in you. Narcissists lack the empathy to care about you. They’re only ever interested in the information they can use against you as leverage to exploit you. Narcissists often bring the conversation back to themselves, when you share good news they’ll claim. “That’s nothing compared to when I.” Share bad news they’ll claim, “That’s nothing compared to when I.” As they seek to outdo you as they’re preoccupied with themselves.
Always the victim.
Narcissists are sly with their pettiness. They’re always the victim in the story. Anything to escape facing the consequences of their actions. Anything they do wrong is always someone else fault.
Failure to take responsibility.
Narcissists don’t do responsibility. They prefer getting sympathy. Narcissists feel entitled to do as they please. Therefore they often do. It’s only when doing as they please is perceived by others as unfavourable. As narcissists don’t want to be painted in a bad light, yet they don’t want to be held responsible. Hence, Instead, they’ll find a scapegoat to blame and shame for their behaviour in a manner whereby the narcissist is perceived by others to be the victim so that the narcissist can gain sympathetic attention. As to a narcissist, anything that goes wrong is never their fault. It’s always somebody else.
A Narcissist rewrites history to escape accountability.
As narcissists feel entitled to special treatment if their food order doesn’t arrive instantly at a fast food restaurant, they can become obnoxious and loud, putting down the staff, accusing people of not being able to do their job, yet as they’re the self-entitled hypocrite if they choose to take their time over something, that’s ok for them if you dare speak out, the narcissist will accuse you of being rude or too demanding, they can see their behaviour in those around them who aren’t even behaving in the narcissist’s manner, they fail to see it in themselves.
Put you on the spot.
When you don’t answer their call instantly, even though they know you’re busy, when you don’t answer that message in 1 second flat, they become offended. How dare you go out with friends and ignore them? They’ll accuse you of cheating, yet when they fall silent on you, they can ignore you for days/weeks at a time, to which a narcissist will claim it’s all your fault and expect you to deal with it.
Due to the narcissist’s arrogance, being wrong is unimaginable to them. Therefore they’re always right, and for them to always be right, they’re going to make out your always wrong, and when you are right, they’ll turn around and say, “You always have to be right, don’t you.?” or “I’m sorry I forgot you were perfect.”
A narcissist will hold grudges against others for the very things they did to others, they accuse others of being bitter and resentful when often it’s the narcissist who is bitter, and when we listen closely, they tell on themselves, with their resentment of how all others have wronged them, if it wasn’t for someone else, as narcissists fail to take responsibility and continue to play the victim, attacking everyone else’s mistakes while acting morally superior.
Narcissistic people have a lot of passive-aggressive behaviours, where they display a pattern of avoidance, such as their silent treatments or sulks to avoid direct communication, indirectly expressing their negative feelings while blaming you. That sarcastic tone, while they accuse you of taking down to them, so you find yourself explaining your intentions to them, while they avoid talking about their behaviour with you, often accusing you of making them act that way “If you hadn’t.”
Another pattern of the narcissist’s petty behaviour is their judgement of others, often looking like they’re acting out of concern when usually it’s out of envy. The narcissist will be up in everyone else’s business, as they continue to fail to take care of their own. The narcissist will find ways to justify and excuse their behaviour while criticising another who behaved similarly. The narcissist’s self-serving empathy.
As a narcissist fails to tend to their own weeds and water their or grass, the grass always looks greener elsewhere, to which a narcissist will be envious and pick at any perceived mistake someone else had made or claim others have all the luck, as the narcissist fails to put the work ethics in for themselves and thrives of others misery.
A Narcissist will happily create the drama to stand back and watch the show, often playing dumb, “I didn’t mean it. That wasn’t me. I didn’t know that would happen.” Offering those passive-aggressive backhanded compliments then claiming, “You misunderstood me.”
As narcissists believe they’re special, they think they’re superior to others. Therefore when their fast food meal deal isn’t served to their timing, the narcissist starts patronising the workers, as the narcissist doesn’t perceive people to be equals, even if the narcissist themselves doesn’t have a job of their own as they believe they’re too special to work, or will not lower their standards to get a job, often judging others claiming. “They got a helping hand to get that job. Nobody did anything for me.” The narcissists self-soothing pity parties as they continue to play the victim and judge everyone else’s life rather than do something about there own. Narcissists are arrogant enough to believe they know better and that they are better than all those around them.
The last word.
Narcissistic types always have to have the last word, if that means walking off from a conversation after patronising you, humming and singing away to themselves, then shutting down and falling silent on you, so they don’t have to communicate with you, feel superior and believe that they were right.
As narcissists are so wrapped up in themselves, they fail to recognise how their behaviour affects others, only how others’ perceptions of their behaviour affect themselves.
Due to the narcissist’s ego, they can receive a narcissistic injury over the slightest thing. When a narcissist is envious of another and feels their sense of entitlement isn’t being met, they can become some of the pettiest, most infuriating people to be around in order to get one over on you or those around you.
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