Narcissists often believe they have a right to everything and anything. The overt narcissist can be more apparent in showing this. They are arrogant, self-centred, have a lack of empathy, believing they are special and above everyone else, believing they are better than all those around them, happy to put others down, entitled to have their own way, oblivious to how their behaviour looks to those around them, as their arrogance often comes across as confidence, they often get away with their behaviour, making the overt believe there’s no wrong in how they act. They have little respect for others, very selfish, stubborn and self-centred people.
Extroverted or Overts.
- An exaggerated sense of self.
- Inflated ego.
- Preoccupied with self.
- Lacks self-awareness.
- Oblivious to impact they have on others.
- High risk-takers.
- Prone to boredom.
- Exaggerating their achievements,
- Lacks empathy.
Once we know about narcissism, overts are the more obvious narcissist.
Overt narcissists are usually the grandiose narcissist, but not always. They are arrogant, boastful and they can be exhibitionist, easily offended to criticism and rage is close to the surface they have grandiose behaviour, they are demanding of specialised treatment, they want to be and will often be known as the best at everything, they really need to be recognised for their uniqueness, believing they are superior to others. Their personality is exploitative and very ruthless in gaining power and control. They have the potential to be a public figure and often but not always have power and money, always at the expense of others. A lot will not secure success, and will simply make up great story’s and lie or exaggerate about their achievements in order to gain the recognition that has never been earned.
The overt narcissist most often has no self-awareness and are oblivious to the impact they have on those around them. They just rule through love or fear, so people either enable them or fear standing up to them.
Overts can cheat, but often they have enough people sucked into their lies, or through the narcissist’s manipulation reliant upon them, those around them make them feel special on a more continuous basis, so they feel less need to cheat. However, they are human, so they are as capable of being a serial cheater as they capable of staying faithful, although this is rare. If they don’t cheat on you, they will cheat you out of happiness, joy, money, homes, family, friends, your opinions, your career, hobbies etc.
They will dominate to exploit people, lying and cheating their way to the top. They can be incredibly charming, which draws people to them, they easily seduce, and when their needs are no longer being met, they move quickly onto the devaluation and discard phase.
When their attempts to exploit others aren’t successful, or their demands and self-entitlement are not being met. They have anger and rage. They will destroy others that don’t conform to their demands.
Overt and covert narcissists have deep feelings of unworthiness. The overt narcissist will diminish, slander and Intimidate, people just because of their own jealousy and insecurities. They have very high levels of distrust in others, probably because of how untrustworthy they are.
Overts, as most narcissistic people do, believe they have a right to everything, and they are self-entitled. They do believe they are special. They have a lack of empathy, think they are better than all around them, and they believe they are good enough.
Overts can come across as very confident and fun to be around, this is often us mistaking their arrogance and dominance, as confidence and someone who has it together, narcissistic people are rarely humble, the overts will boast, brag, exaggerate and gloat about their achievements, they’ll also talk about, belittle and criticise others that the narcissist is envious of.
They will still play the victim when needed, especially if they’ve felt threatened. Therefore the narcissist felt the need to pull someone else down to feel better within themselves, as the narcissist will blame the other person for threatening them real or perceived. The narcissist can be triggered by the narcissist feeling disrespected, shame, rejection, embarrassment, humiliation, fearing abandonment, etc., causing narcissistic injury, leading to narcissistic rage, leading towards the narcissist abusing others, this can be sexual, emotional, spiritual, mental, physical, financial. The narcissist will use the other person’s weaknesses and go after those as this hurts us the most. When we get defensive and justify ourselves, explain ourselves, fight back. The narcissist will continue to get us going, so the narcissist can blame us, play the victim leading to us feeling bad, the narcissist gaining attention as we work harder to please them, fawning to their behaviour, blaming ourselves and walking on eggshells around the narcissist, which confirms in the narcissists mind it was our fault, it’s never your fault, abuse is abuse, and there is no excuse.
They are manipulative in what they do. To keep the intent of their actual behaviour hidden, they will tell countless lies, often believing their own lies. A narcissist will manipulate anything, everything and everyone to meet a need of their own and feel superior to others.
As they believe they’re entitled to have what they please. They are extremely envious of others who have what the narcissist wants. They’ll exploit to gain from others or to sabotage and destroy others.
Overt Narcissist is the very grandiose, very in-your-face and very assertive.
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