The somatic narcissist is all about the looks, whatever that look is to the individual somatic narcissist, it can be having the perfect body, the ideal image of the family, the ideal cars, jobs, homes, they might have chaos in one aspect of life such as jumping from one relationship to the next, yet seemingly have a stable career, or they might come across as having a perfect life, yet instability in other areas. Somatics can and will parade their body and looks and brag about their physical selves. Brag about their sexual conquests, boast about family, health, wealth. The somatic will exploit their body’s to gain the attention from others that they crave so badly.
Signs of Somatic narcissism.
- Show off.
- Pride In appearance.
- Lack of empathy.
- Requires excessive admiration.
- Will put others down.
The somatic is most likely to show more signs of overt narcissism the more obvious narcissist, who doesn’t see how their behaviour affects others, and feels entitled to obviously state what they do or want without consequences, due to those around them admiring their achievements, yet being manipulated by the somatic into not seeing how the somatic narcissist exploited others to achieve what they have. They are also most likely to be grandiose when it comes to personality. They believe themselves to be special, and those around them are usually manipulated into agreeing with the narcissist.
The somatics are incredibly successful at drawing people in with ease. They may use their looks, charm, career to draw people to them. They can be very talented individuals. Often the somatic are extremely popular. People adore them and want to be around them. They can be ambitious, highly driven with very high energy levels.
The somatic takes great pride in their appearance and becomes easily offended if others point out a flaw, or if they see an imperfection in others that the somatic themselves has but doesn’t want to recognise within themselves, they can equally overly boastful about things they have that others don’t.
Somatics is preoccupied with self, self-centred, will happily talk about themselves, exaggerating all achievements.
Somatics have an inflated ego. They believe themselves to be more important than others, with little to no respect for other peoples boundaries, they can be extremely selfish and very stubborn, quick with the silent treatments, ghosting, quick to anger as they believe common rules, loyalty, respect don’t apply to them, however, they do to you.
If they feel their sense of superiority slipping away, they will happily pull others down in order to feel better within themselves.
Somatic narcissists, like other narcissists, love and desire special attention, those somatic narcissists that use their body’s to gain this, and their sense of identity is often linked to the approval from others about their looks when this isn’t attained, they can feel in-depth criticism. As narcissists are extremely jealous and envious of those around them, they will put others down based on their looks, especially those the narcissist feels they are in competition with, instead of recognising we are only in competition with ourselves, instead of being happy for others success and seeing what they can learn from it, a somatic narcissist will go all out to put others down and sabotage others success.
A somatic narcissist is often portrayed as a sex addict. Not all sex addicts are narcissistic people.
Although they are often sex addicts, they don’t get their emotional needs met from sex. They get their needs met in the chase, their conquest over having so many sexual partners, the reaction when they leave just discard one partner for the next, the excitement of getting a new model, excitement of winning someone over and breaking down their boundaries.
It gives them a sense of control and dominance. Proving to themselves, they are special, worthy, desirable, irresistible, and they are unique.
Somatic like other types of narcissists want the best of everything, to a somatic, this can simply be clothes and cars leading onto, homes and holidays. They can obsess over their appearance. They can boast about their appearances, and they can flatter those around them as they fish for compliments to fill up their own self-esteem issues. Not that they’ll admit to having self-esteem issues or insecurities. They can go all out with the plastic surgery as they strive for perfection, people that overspend, have plastic surgery etc., if they lack in empathy, exploit others, they most likely are on the spectrum somewhere, however just because someone likes to drive a nice car, that alone doesn’t make them on the spectrum.
Ageing hits the somatic narcissist the most, as they a reliant upon their looks.
How to handle.
You can not help those who do not want to recognise the mistakes they make. No contact is best, walk away and work on yourself. This takes courage and strength to face the fear and lose the hope. Focussing on the situation in its entirety can be daunting, so just take it one step at a time, focus on the fact you want out, focus on a life you do want for yourself, and you will take steps to get there.
Talk with people who’ve lived it, gain clarity on what you’ve been through, seek therapy if needed, make sure you feel comfortable with the therapist.
Leaning your boundaries and sticking to your no, when we know our boundaries, those red flags become deal breakers.
Remember, taking pride in your appearance, working on a diet or exercise plan, treating yourself to a holiday etc., does not make you a narcissist. It’s only when people manipulate, feel entitled, lack empathy and try to exploit others, they could be on the spectrum.
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