For someone to be on the spectrum of the narcissist personality disorder, people would need at least five of the nine characteristics—one of those being Entitled, has unreasonable expectations of special treatment, meeting a need of their own.
The others are:-
- A belief they are special.
- Lack of empathy.
- Preoccupation with their ideal.
- Requires excessive attention.
Narcissists can play nice and come across as a genuine person. This is only to manipulate because they want something in return, their Admiration face when they will boast and brag, even exaggerate their achievements, to win someone over, so they can manipulate and take advantage of that person.
When they don’t get what they want outcomes, their envious face, as they feel entitled, they take this as an in-depth criticism and the tantrums begin, slowly breaking down people’s boundaries, with gaslighting, The Narcissists’ Triangulation. Pity plays, guilt trips, and more, they seek to take out those who they feel are not serving them as they should, not admiring them as they should, as they feel entitled to be treated.
If they feel criticised, slighted or betrayed by another, they can rage, or the passive-aggressive silence, holding onto a grudge for a long time, they can seem extraordinarily Jealous or envious of others, especially those who have something they want, they will put those people down any way they can, they will, of course, have a grand tail to spin of why they were the Victim, and we often then feel sorry for them and do all we can to support them, when in reality, they were never the victim, the one they hold a grudge against was the victim, and the narcissist is the perpetrator.
Depending on the individual, narcissist would depend on how their entitlement comes across, whether they show that entitlement to others overtly or covertly, grandiose or the victim.
Signs of entitlement.
- Rarely helps out unless there’s something in it for them.
- Expects others to help them.
- Happy to take unwillingly to give.
- A Belief that they deserve special treatment.
- Will not accept responsibility.
- Always passes blame.
- Rarely admits fault “I’m sorry you, I’m sorry but, I’m sorry if.”
- No matter what you give them, or whatever they have, they always want more.
- Envious of others.
- Claims others have all the luck.
- Always finding something to complain about.
- Lack of self-awareness.
- Will not accept no for an answer.
Entitled narcissists have an unreasonable demand that others should conform to their way, believing they are deserving of special treatment.
They should not be made to wait. In restaurants, a table should just be ready for them, fast food restaurants, their food should be ready instantly. They don’t think they should have to queue up for things and can become very impatient. They don’t believe they have to pay their way, or they think others should pay more.
They think they can turn up late, and everyone should be instantly grateful they turned up at all.
They do not accept the word no.
They can try to blag their way into places, claiming to know the owner, some even saying,” Don’t you know who I am.” if that doesn’t work, they can become aggressive and insulting.
They will Intimidate staff to try and get their own way.
They will point out others mistakes and gloat about people’s downfalls.
Tantrum like a toddler when they don’t get their own way.
They will Project their entitlement onto those close to them, with their Gaslighting words of ”Why do you have to be so unreasonable.” when you try to set a boundary with them. Or ” It’s not all about you.” when you try to have an opinion, or you’d like to do something.
They might feel entitled to have control over your whereabouts, wanting your location settings turned on, wanting all your passwords. However, you’ll not be able to have theirs. It’ll not be a two-way street, only one way, the narcissist’s entitled way.
They don’t believe they should work for a promotion, they believe it’s a given, and if it’s not a given, then the other person sucked up to the boss.
Ten signs of a narcissists entitlement.
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