Why does a narcissist play mind games?
Control, they have to control, everything and everyone around them, they put you into a state of trance so you become paralysed within your own mind, no longer knowing reality, thus going to the narcissist for reality, so they can control you, if you start to realise, they’ll up those mind games to send you into a further trance.
To keep the appearance of their false self, with their games and staying in control of you, they stay calm most of the time around others, the lesser are not always in control enough to do this all the time with others, yet you are confused and agitated, often with anxiety, so you look to others like the crazy one. They look like they are doing so well putting up with you, this allows, them to show others how good they are, making it harder for you to tell others what’s really happening, and get the help you need.
They use them to draw emotions out of you, if you become, upset, distraught, angry, annoyed or frustrated, because of the mind games the narcissist is playing, they are just enjoying the emotional reactions from you.
They believe they are above everybody else, so with the mind games, leaving you upset, angry, hurt and confused, it gives them to control that they are better than you.
If they feel criticised in any way, they use mind games to defend themselves from criticism or accusations, they will deny, blame shift, deflect and project, it benefits them by confusing you, also protecting themselves from and accountability, avoidance of the problems.
To exhaust you, so you can no longer think clearly and have left resistance, so you can not work out what they are doing, also so you give in to their demands. When you’re exhausted, it’s easier for them to apply further manipulation.
Mental abuse is harder for people to see what’s happening than physical abuse, mental abuse is harder to recover from as you often don’t see it until your mindset has been reprogrammed in such a way, it takes a long time to, un program all the manipulation,
A bruise is a bruise and raises questions. Mind games the narcissist can deflect it back onto you. If you break an arm or have a black eye, you can carry on with most Day to day activities, mind games grind you down, to the point you struggle to think straight, find it difficult to get on with day to day living.
To plan for the future, so when they discard you, or you work out what they are and leave, they can label you as the crazy one, the mind games gives you a confused, hazy state of mind, that it makes it easier for them during the smear campaign against you. That your behaviour demonstrates to others that you are the crazy one. There are very few people that can protect themselves from the narcissist mind games in the correct way, most are left dazed, trauma bonded, and at the end of their tether, appearing to others as crazy.
If you take them to caught or call the police, they can act the calm reasonable one, whilst you look crazy.
Because of your empathy, you are more suspectable, to manipulation, because of your traits of honesty, kindness, sympathy, willingness to forgive, keenness to help others and to understand. Wanting the truth and emotional responses, you will also try harder, to change and please, believing it’s because of something you did. With the help of the narcissist never-ending twisting of words.
The lesser narcissist who has less control of their rage will also use physical violence, from pulling hair, strangling you and much more, the greater are more calculated in what they do. greater are far less likely to use physical violence, they will rarely use violence that leaves marks.