Signs that you are healing from narcissistic abuse. No matter where you are in your journey. First, congratulate yourself for taking steps to overcome a harrowing and traumatic experience. Be proud of yourself and who you are. Find three things you are grateful for and think of those whenever you feel like you’ve taken a step backwards, be proud of yourself for starting your journey of rediscovery of your self-worth, choosing every day to no longer participate in the narcissists deeply hidden slow mental abuse, congratulate yourself for working out what is very hard to see.
When you have newfound confidence, happiness, respect for yourself and others, moving forward in your life no matter how slow or how fast, you are a great example to others going through this very traumatic experience. You are healing from narcissistic abuse. You are stronger and wiser than you were before, and you have a newfound ability to stand up for yourself.
Signs you are healing.
You now recognise when you’re been manipulated by shame, guilt, passive-aggressive behaviour.
You can now lovingly and assertively, communicate your beliefs and values to others, boundaries of behaviour that you will and will not expect from others.
Now your seeing reality, you respect and know yourself enough, to walk away from people who simply don’t make you feel good.
You’re no longer in denial. You want to stand up for yourself, you want to be valued and be heard, you’ll no longer worry about being judged, as you know those who judge have their own issues, those who genuinely love and care about you, will respect you as you do them.
You’ll feel whole within yourself and not need someone else to complete you, and you’ll know if you’ve found the right one or someone to walk away from.
You’ll no longer people please, and you’ll be able to say no to others without fear of them walking out of your life because you’ll know people like that are not worthy of you.
You’ll know that any relationship is given and take. You’ll happily give to those who are willing to give to you, walking away from those who only take from you.
You’ll not make excuses for other people’s bad behaviour.
Instead, you’ll surround your self, with people who understand others have different opinions and that it’s ok. People who are willing to learn and grow, you’ll know everyone makes mistakes, but those who are willing to learn from them you want as friends.
You’ll understand that your empathy and compassion is a good thing. You’ll know that you need to apply those to yourself before others.
You’ll lose interest in people, who have vague communication skills, who are mysterious, who play mind games, as you’ll be well aware of these games. You’ll no longer be confused. You’ll be able to observe situations with more objectiveness, and you understand what’s flattery and what compliments.
You’ll look for the good in life, when you’re feeling low or stressed, instead of sinking into those feelings thinking. ”why is this happening to me.” you’ll put a big smile on your face as this shifts your state of mind and think more about. ”what is this teaching me.” life happens. It’s a roller coaster of ups and downs. You’ll be able to ride out those regular downs and walk away from abusive, negative people, when your car needs money, when something happens at work, whatever issues crop up, you’ll know you’ve overcome far worse, and you can overcome these, with thoughts of. “What action can I take to change this.” Or “do I need to learn from this and just let it go.”
You’ll be able to shift those down moments to joyful moments. You’ll look for the things that make you happier when you fell your getting sad, finding the things you do appreciate and grateful for, raising your head, standing tall, finding something that makes you laugh, as you know that’s a far happier way to live.
You can, and you will recover from this.
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