Personality types of narcissists.
Trying to work out if you’re dealing with a narcissist or not can get you looking at lots of different literature and listening to lots of audio, as those light bulb moments hit one by one, and all those dots we didn’t see while we lived it start to connect together. The fact we begin to Google someone’s behaviour or see a meme or a quote that describes our life or someone we are dealing with is a major red flag you’re dealing with a toxic person. Narcissist or not, abuse is abuse.
There are lots of words out there describing the different narcissistic personality types, so here’s a quick summary.
The narcissistic personality disorder is a disorder, and they do need to have at least five traits to have the disorder, these are.
1. Has a grandiose sense of self-importance. Exaggerating achievements and talents.
2. Preoccupied with ultimate success. Lives in a fantasy world of power, control, dominance, brilliance.
3. Superiority. Believing they are special and above all others.
4. Entitled. Feels entitled to have all their own needs met, demanding, manipulative and controlling.
5. Excessive admiration. A constant need for excessive admiration.
6. Exploits others. Takes advantage and manipulates others to get their own needs met.
7. Lack of empathy. Can not truly connect with how others are feeling.
8. Envious of others, believing others are envious of them. Hate people who have something they want, also believing others are envious of them.
9. Arrogant and haughty behaviour. An exaggerated sense of their own abilities and behaviours.
Types Of Narcissists.
There are four types of narcissists and four subtypes.
Classic the grandiose.
- Grandiose sense of self.
- Preoccupied with self.
- Unpleasantly proud of themselves.
- All about impressing others.
- Often has the money, cars, home.
- No respect for others boundaries.
- Exaggerates achievements.
- Inflated ego.
- Humiliates others.
They know everything. It’s their way or the highway. These are the ones you are most likely to read about, self-centred, arrogant, full of charm, often having lots of supporters around them.
The Fragile, vulnerable narcissist.
- Easily offended.
- Plays the victim.
- Very woe is me.
- Silent treatments.
- Believes the world is against them.
- Extremely envious of others.
Tend to be more emotionally sensitive to criticism than other narcissists, have low self-esteem and can be depressed. Someone who’s been abused by a narcissist can come across as a vulnerable narcissist, from learned behaviour to protect themselves, when they are actually struggling with CPTSD. Vulnerable narcissists often get misdiagnosed with BPD. Those with BPD or CPTSD can get misdiagnosed as a narcissist.
- Evil in nature or effect.
- Superficial charm.
- Relentlessly aggressive.
- Pathological liar.
- Deliberately causing suffering to others.
- Antisocial behaviour.
- Little to no empathy.
- Zero responsibility.
- No remorse.
- Extreme envy.
- Abrupt mood swings.
The most pathological and, hurtful of all narcissists, they have no sense of their inner worth, meaning they are full of rage and extremely vindictive, they are extremely dangerous and will stop at nothing to harm others, they are extremely unstable and often unstoppable, they will encourage others to fight on their behalf, they are extremely impulsive, they have no empathy or guilt, taking lots of rash hurtful actions towards others, they have an excessive rage within themselves. They have the ability to change reality for millions of people. Their crazy internal reality makes those around them believe that crazy reality, in the millions, if allowed to do so. They have no limits, and there is nothing they will not do to serve themselves.
- Super nice to others.
- Helps select people if it makes them look good.
- Seems to play by the rules.
- Acts like the play by the rules.
- Seeks excessive praise.
- Exploits peoples kindness.
- Superficial empathy.
They seem to sacrifice themselves for others, very community-oriented, coming across as good people, they can winge and whine, they need praise for all that they do, they are passive-aggressive, those sulks and silent treatments, controls you by giving you things, and expecting eternal gratitude, will happily trip you up, so they can claim they picked you back up. They seem on the outside to work so hard and do so much for others, yet their true behaviour is textbook narcissism. They are a backhanded do-gooder, may appear to listen and help others, they are actually helping themselves. They will always let you know which charity they’ve been to, how many people they’ve helped, etc., they are after the attention and praise.
Introverted or Covert.
- Plays victim.
- Hidden passive-aggressive manipulation.
- Extremely envious of others.
They are harder to identify. They are very fragile, very ashamed people, extremely sensitive to setbacks and criticism. They are very woe is me. They’ve suffered more than anybody else, extraordinarily envious and jealous, not understanding why others get stuff they do not. They can be passive-aggressive, and they can be very antisocial. They will continually nag if they work, they often change jobs fast, they get bored very quickly, they are extremely lazy.
Extroverted or Overts.
- An exaggerated sense of self.
- Inflated ego.
- Preoccupied with self.
- Lacks self-awareness.
- Oblivious to impact they have on others.
- High risk-takers.
Believe they have a right to everything and anything. Arrogant, self-centred, lack of empathy, believing they are special and above everyone else, they are better than all those around them. No respect, stubborn and self-centred.
- Acts superior.
- High functioning.
- Can seem to play by the rules.
- Can control inner rage.
- The belief they are superior.
- Preoccupied with ultimate success.
Cerebral narcissist pretends to know it all, and they use all their knowledge, real or fake intellect. The maintenance of their body is a chore. They can not be bothered with it, so they use real of fake intelligence to get the attention they crave from those around them.
- Show off.
- Pride In appearance.
Somatic, parade their body and looks and brag about their physical selves. Brags about their sexual conquests. They exploit their body’s to gain the attention of others that they crave so badly.
The best way to spot a narcissist is their envy of others, their sense of entitlement, willingness to exploit people and lack of empathy to care for the pain they cause others.
Narcissist Personality Types.
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