Deep down most narcissists have an extremely low to possibly even no sense of real self, and they are often very envious people, they have very fragile egos. They are insecure, so they have to mask all of this, by playing the victim or being grandiose. With a Covert or overt narcissist, It’s all an act to cover up who they indeed are, and how envious they are, it’s all a defence mechanism. Their behaviour says everything about then and it has nothing to do with who you are a person.
Male and female narcissists will use manipulation, and gaslighting, they’ll be charming, they’ll raise you up, they’ll be your soulmate, they can treat you so well one minute to confuse you when they mistreat you the next￼.
Most females will use their sexuality to pull you in; they’ll rush intimacy and want to make you feel like a man. To make you feel like a man, they use their sexuality to hook you in.
Whereas men tend to use all the romance, and sweeping you off your feet, all of the things women want to hear, so they use your emotions to hook you in.
Both male and female will most often be obsessed with achievements, status and money, they both want to be successful, male or female narcissists whatever they have it’s never enough, they always want more to try and fill a void they never can. Not all are successful; those who are not will find someone else to blame.
Both male and female narcissists that like to spend money will spend money theirs or not, not all but most female narcissists want to hook up with someone who has money, and some male ones also do.
Females want to brag and flaunt, everything they’re getting from the male.
Both a male and a female narcissist wants to be the centre of attention, due to needing to feel validated and cover up their low self-esteem.
Both males and female narcissists believe they are better than everyone else, and people will look up to them and be envious of them. They are just showing superficial charm that arrogance and false things to cover their inner feelings. It’s all false. They seek to pull others down to feel better about themselves.
With a female narcissist, they are bitchy, and a bully.
Most women will have had a moment of gossiping, not feeling so great for doing so, feelings of remorse or guilt, that’s normal, we can all gossip. You will have a moment and think, nope I shouldn’t be judging, and feel awful.
With a female narcissist, they will gossip about anyone and everyone they do not care. They are bullies. It’s just to make her feel better about herself. You get something new. They’ll get something better. They enjoy bringing others down. Even if they’re not narcissists,￼ someone who constantly puts others down is basically screaming out their own insecurities.
Both male and female do enjoy putting others down, to make themselves feel better, as they find it easier than doing the hard work of raising themselves up.
A female narcissist and a male narcissist can both be passive-aggressive and put others down because they are envious of others. Because others have got quality’s or achievement, the narcissist wants. They can not see the damage they do towards others, as to the narcissist it’s never their fault, they don’t have the ability to self-reflect and change themselves, they cannot accept accountability, they have to blame others. They believe they are perfect, and it’s others that are at fault.
If they have children, a male and female narcissist will find and make a golden child and a scapegoat child.
Male and female will suck all your happiness from you, they will take all your joy, they will try to send you crazy, they want to take all your qualities and leave you with theirs.
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