Overcoming Narcissist Abuse, by Elizabeth Shaw – Life Coach.
The somatic narcissist.
The narcissistic personality disorder is on a spectrum, although narcissists have the narcissistic traits, their personality differs as they are individuals, although some characteristics will crossover, the overt narcissist will sometimes use covert methods, the non-victim narcissist will play victim at some point. Most narcissistic people will have somatic and cerebral traits. They will just sway more towards one trait. They will either be dominantly somatic or dominantly cerebral. So a narcissistic Person will always up to their game and switch between the narcissistic characteristics and manipulation methods, to suit whatever need they need to meet at that time.
A somatic narcissist is portrayed as a sex addict, and not all sex addicts are narcissistic people.
Narcissists are usually somatic or cerebral. So they get their need met by either Using their body’s or using their minds.
Although they are often sex addicts, they don’t get the emotional need met from sex.
More in the chase, their conquest over so many, the reaction when they leave them high and dry, the excitement of getting a new model, excitement of winning someone over and breaking down their boundaries.
It gives them a sense of control and dominance. Proving to themselves, they are desirable, irresistible, and they are unique.
Somatic’s will flaunt their body’s brag about their conquest, they are most often health freaks, ( just because someone takes care of themselves and visits a gym doesn’t mean they are a narcissistic person if they don’t have other traits.) the somatic narcissist wants to sculpt their own body’s into perfection, not all of them but most of them, some somatic narcissists will Just rely on their facial appearance and superficial charm. They treat other people’s body’s as an object, how people like to upgrade phones or try different models, that’s how a somatic narcissistic person sees people’s body, just a new toy, then once bored with, they often discard and conquer the next.
Both somatic and cerebral prefer taking care of their own sexual needs and get the end pleasure from it than the actual sexual encounter with others, somatic just use others as a conquest, challenge complete.
Once married a cerebral narcissist will often go off sex, the males often but not always turning towards porn. Some say the cerebral are usually homosexual, often they’ll not admit this, again not all are and not all homosexuals are narcissistic people.
The somatic uses other people’s body’s to self masturbate basically, the partner has often used as an object an extension of themselves. The male and female somatic narcissist just use other people’s body’s like a toy.
Somatic’s are often preoccupied with sex and believe they are entitled to sex, they use their body to draw people in, they feel entitled to sex, and believe any attention they get is an open invitation to sex.
Not all narcissistic people are unfaithful, the majority are, and the somatic can be pathological when it comes to affairs, to feed their desire and need for attention and admiration, they can also feed their need for attention just from people admiring their looks.
Not everyone who flaunts their bodies is a narcissist if they don’t have other traits they are just self-confident people.
The great, William Shakespeares sonnet 62 describes how a somatic narcissist thinks very well.
“Sin of self-love possesseth all mine eye
And all my soul, and all my every part;
And for this sin, there is no remedy,
It is so grounded inward in my heart.
Methinks no face so gracious is as mine,
No shape so true, no truth of such account;
And for myself, mine own worth do define,
As I all other in all worths surmount.
But when my glass shows me myself indeed
Beated and chopp’d with tanned antiquity,
Mine own self-love quite contrary I read;
Self so self-loving were iniquity.
‘Tis thee, myself, that for myself I praise,
Painting my age with beauty of thy days.”
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