If you had a narcissistic partner, that partner might have had a narcissistic parent who would always back up their narcissistic child.
Not all narcissists have narcissistic parents. If yours did, no matter what they say or try to do, always remember that you know the truth.
Those narcissists who have a narcissistic parent will have been raised having their minds programmed to think in a narcissistic way. This isn’t always the case. Children can and do grow up to break free from the narcissistic family, not always but usually the scapegoat child or the forgotten child, that just had a sense that something wasn’t right, the golden child often carrying a lot of guilt.
As a narcissist is filled with negativity, rage and envy, very self-centred and self-entitled, deep down, they can be full of self-hatred and have to project this onto those around them, they are incapable of understanding what they do and any that do are incapable of seeing it as their problem, they just believe they are better than you. All narcissist’s identities are false, often using qualities of those around them to pass off as their own to impress others,  and their mask will slip. Narcissists just have a lack empathy to care about the damage they cause to those around them. They are only ever in anything for themselves.
The narcissistic personality disorder is on a spectrum, so depending on whereabouts, your narcissist was on the spectrum, and their family members, will depend on the treatment you receive. They may be overt,covert, somatic, cerebral, vulnerable, grand or malignant.
At first, the narcissistic family members who are also narcissists can come across as very charming, yet at some point, they will change as they are all about control, and they also need to control the family image.
When your ex-narcissist comes from a family of narcissists, if you speak the truth, you would most often get put down, judged, ignored and criticised. You can also become the centre of a mass smear campaign.
Your narcissist’s ex, their family members will spread gossip far and wide about how you are the crazy one and do all they can to ruin your name.
Narcissists are con artists, and they will run in packs of families to protect themselves.
Once you have learned the truth of the other narcissists in your ex’s family and the things they do to others, they will go all out to destroy you, so not only will you be up against the narcissist, but the narcissistic family members also.
Narcissistic families can be like a cult. Some narcissistic families will do all they can to keep you locked in the family others can and will just get the entire family to cut you out and turn against you, smearing your name to family members who are not narcissistic.
The narcissist, in general, will spin reality around, to their own version, with lies, manipulation, gaslighting, cruelty, putting fear in you so you dare not speak up.
The family member will deny all truths, and even if they saw their brother, sister, son, or daughter mistreat you or your children, they will all blame shift it onto you. To protect the family of narcissists, they do not care for each other. They care for the family name, their status, their pride, especially if the narcissist you were with happened to be the golden child. There are also those narcissistic family members who have turned to the survival mode fawn. Through fear of what they have seen happen to those who go against the narcissists in the family, they will become enablers to try and protect themselves from the abusers.
Narcissistic in-laws will always blame you for their child’s behaviour, and it will never be their child, narcissistic in-laws and siblings unless they see something to gain by going against the narcissist. They will side with the narcissist.
Once you leave a narcissistic relationship, you’ll often end up alone, and as narcissism isn’t very well known, although awareness is growing. People often don’t believe what you tell them unless they know about NPD or they’ve been through it themselves. Therefore usually, the narcissistic family is believed, and you are painted as the crazy one.
What can you do?
Set firm boundaries and no longer allow them to cross them.
Take care of your emotional well being, let anger, frustration, resentment, and anxiety out safely.
Call authorities if needed and get a picture of their toxic behaviour built up over time.
Don’t overthink what they might do.
When they come at you, don’t react or ask, “Why me?” Get some rest, clear your emotions, and then ask. “What can I do about this?” If you can take any safe action against their games, do so.
Remember, you are not the problem, try to stay out of their way, give them a wide birth, and focus on your life.
There are plenty of people out there that do understand, join support groups, and don’t be afraid to ask anything, and they will be able to help you understand and recover onto a much happier, fulfilling life.
Check these out!
15 Rules To Deal With Narcissistic People.: How To Stay Sane And Break The Chain.
Narcissists Handbook: The ultimate guide to understanding and overcoming narcissistic and emotional abuse.-1
Boundaries with Narcissists: Safeguarding Emotional, Psychological, and Physical Independence.
Hilarious (and Horrifying) Narcissistic Memes And Their Meanings.
Healing from Narcissistic Abuse: A Guided Journal for Recovery and Empowerment: Reclaim Your Identity, Build Self-Esteem, and Embrace a Brighter Future
Elizabeth Shaw is not a Doctor or a therapist. She is a mother of five, a blogger, a survivor of narcissistic abuse, and a life coach, She always recommends you get the support you feel comfortable and happy with. Finding the right support for you. Elizabeth has partnered withBetterHelp(Sponsored.) where you will be matched with a licensed councillor, who specialises in recovery from this kind of abuse.
Whenever we get into a newrelationship, we are taking a risk, we don’tknow everyone, yet we’d like to believepeople are genuine. No one gets involved with or stays with an abusive partner intentionally.
Some narcissists use physical violence. Often by this point, you’re too full of fear to leave them, yet a lot of narcissistic People don’t use physical violence. Mental abuse is harder to see.
Signs within yourself.
Are you blaming yourself for their actions toward you? Do you keep hoping they’ll change? Are you isolated from friends and family? Are you getting bad anxiety? Are you feeling depressed? No longer knowing who you are? Are you walking on eggshells? No longer feeling comfortable around your partner? Fearing what mood they’ll wake up in? Fearing the key in the door? Or, if you don’t manage to answer the phone to them straight away, live in fear of their accusations or reactions? Are you no longer going out with friends? If most of the answers are yes, it is highly likely you’re with a narcissistic person. Even if they are not a narcissist, they are extremely harmful or toxic. If your fear speaking up for yourself and feel your boundaries are slipping, you need to find a safe way out. Do you feel safe? If you no longer feel safe, you need to find a safe way out.
An abusive relationship can have devastating effects not only on your mental health but your physical health also. These relationships can not only happen in our romantic relationship, but it can also happen with friends, family and people within your work setting.
Emotional abuse is harrowing and hard to see it’s happening to you, as it happens so gradually over time, as the abuser can treat you so well at times. They have ways of explaining everything away, making you doubt yourself, or making you blame yourself, then as they fill all your human needs for certainty, uncertainty, contribution, growth, love and connection, significance in a negative way. As you are left so uncertain at times, yet certain you’re in a relationship, you forever grow and change even though it’s hurting you. Sometimes you feel the love from them, and you contribute by always picking the pieces up after them. You become addicted to the abuser on a subconscious level.
In the beginning, they lure you in, make you feel comfortable then slowly take control over you. Genuine, kind-hearted people make excuses for their partner’s behaviour, often blaming themselves, so continually sacrificing themselves and things they enjoy in attempts to make the relationship work.
If you’re feeling any of these, crazy, confused, depressed, broken, beaten, always to blame, fear of reactions, cannot get your own inner feelings out, feeling worthless, unlovable, self-doubt, thinking it’s all so unbelievable, there is a high chance you’re around an abusive person.
Twelve signs you’re in a psychologically abusive relationship.
1. You’re always feeling on edge and fearful. You’re afraid to speak out or speak up at times. You are worried about or scared of their reactions if you do.
2. They are very petty. They make a massive deal over minor things; what you did right once is suddenly no longer right. Even simple things like you have not cooked their vegetables how they like them.
3. You’ve lost your self-esteem. They criticise you over things about your friendship choices, your family members, to how you clean, how you parent, how you cook, tell you you’re not good enough, criticise how you dress, and your figure. All to make them feel better about themselves, slowly losing your self-esteem.
4. You’ve lost your self-respect as they take down your boundaries one by one, gaslighting you, saying, “my friend’s partner would.” Or “My ex would.” To “You’re too regimented and need to loosen up.” Giving you the silent treatment if you don’t conform to their demands.
5. They block you and cut you off. Any topic you try to raise, they either change it to something completely different, bring up something you did, rage at you or silent treatment you. Making you lose what the discussion was indeed about.
6. They distract you, again changing the subject or saying. “You’re too sensitive,” you’re overacting.” Or “That never happened.” “I told you last week you’re losing your memory.” So you doubt your instincts and your version of reality, usually then going to the abuser for a reality check.
7. You end up walking on eggshells around them, always being careful what you say or do, where you go, for fear of how they’ll react.
8. You feel humiliated. They often poke fun at you, especially in front of others, in subtle ways. They do it in the form of. “I’m only joking.” Slowly losing your confidence. They also do it by making comments about how you look. Covert narcissist. “You’re not wearing that are you.” Overt narcissists. “That looks terrible on you.”
9. They use all your weaknesses against you, provoking you constantly to get reactions from you when you defend yourself, then they blame it all on you, leaving you full of more self-doubt and feeling guilty for how you reacted, often blaming yourself.
10. If you’re hurt or upset, they often show no compassion, often walking out and leaving you upset. Or they’ll go on about a situation they had that was far worse. They don’t care for your feelings and have no real empathy towards you unless they have something to gain by pretending to do so.
11. They treat you better than anyone ever has at times, to keep you more confused and working harder to please them. This is what makes it so confusing: they’re not bad all the time. They switch the game from being nice to nasty, like a flip of a light switch to keep you in a trance while they slowly drain everything from you.
12. You no longer know who you are; you don’t feel yourself anymore and feel like you’re slowly losing more and more of who you are. You lost all the things you used to enjoy so much, your values, your trust and your beliefs.
13. You’re always on edge, and it’s starting to become not only when you are around your abuser but when you’re around others also. You’ve lost your self-trust in your judgment, you feel judged by others, and you no longer trust those around you.
If you’re still in an abusive relationship, seek help from the domestic violence helpline, and ask friends and family for assistance if you’ve not been isolated from them.
Stay safe. Do not tell your abuser what you think or that you are leaving, try gathering money, and keeping a diary of events where the abuser can not find it. Gather passports and birth certificates, and get to a safe place.
You are not alone. Unfortunately, a lot have been through and are going through this, and some people understand how you feel and what’s happening.
You can, and you will break free and move on to a much happier life.
Letting go can be extremely hard. It is possible, though. You’ve just got to find the best method for you to achieve it for yourself.
Learn to let go of all the blame, yet don’t pass all the blame over. Take responsibility for yourself, and never for them. No one deserves to be abused. Blaming those who have hurt us for everything that is wrong within our own lives only holds you back, “ If it wasn’t for them doing that to me.” is only keeping you trapped in your own negative mindset and your past. You need to change it to. Blaming others is only self-sabotaging your own peace of mind and your own inner happiness. Pass responsibility for their behaviour back to them. Abuse is abuse, no excuse. You did nothing to deserve that. That is on them.
The past is in the past. If you want to become free, you need to stop locking yourself into your past. Once you heal from your past, whatever that narcissist is trying to do to you now, you’ll no longer be affected. Once you understand how and why they act the way they do, learn to observe and not absorb. Keep your standards high for yourself, lower your expectations of those who are incapable of loving and caring for others, learn practice and do grey rock or no contact. Your life will become so much easier.
If you don’t want them to win, let it go, move on and create a happier, more optimistic, more successful you.
If you really want to move on, stop letting your past hold you back.
They are thieves, so now, in the present moment, and every present moment after this, you need to stop allowing others to steal your joy.
Stop letting them live rent-free in your mind. Yes, this takes practice. If you want to achieve this, use pattern interrupt. Every time they pop into your mind, you have to consciously remove that thought and replace it with a positive one. There is a post on this page with more information about pattern interrupt.
No longer allow them to steal your joy and live in your mind when they pull something in the present moment, don’t give them what they want; instead, stay calm and do not react. It’s hard at first, but the more you practice, the easier it becomes, don’t let it spoil the rest of your day. Let it go.
Sometimes, people hold on to the past and the pain and the blame, as they believe it’s easier than moving on. You’ve got to face up to that pain of letting go. So you can move onto a much happier future,
The more you allow them to infect your mind, the more of your life they take from you. They are a virus that swoops in, treat you better than anyone ever has, and then slowly destroys you. It takes time and work from you to recover from that trauma bond, just like when you get ill, you have to take the steps to get better when you break a bone. It has to heal, depending on the severity of the narcissist and how long you were with them, how much it affected your health, and how much they are trying to affect you now, differs to how long it takes individuals to recover, we are all more than capable of recovery if you put your mind to it, others have done it before you, with more awareness it’ll become easier and hopefully stop people getting involved with these, energy-draining vampires in the first place.
The best and only revenge is letting go and moving on. Showing you’re strong enough to let go, your ego is happy to let go, you’re now not even interested in them to even bother seeking revenge, or give reactions as you are now free to be happy, you’re now free to live your own successful life, something they’ll never be able to do, as they don’t see themselves as the problem, they can only hit pattern repeat, you can hit pattern interrupt and start a new direction, a great journey, wiser and stronger than you were before.
You can live in calm, peace and joy. Let them take their toxic, infectious negativity elsewhere.
People always hit some form of a roadblock in life’s journey, life doesn’t always go as planned, but you can leave your mistakes in the past and take the lessons into your present.
Give yourself a positive mindset, focus on the good, write down the good things you have, and focus on adding to that list.
Write down the good things you want in life, then keep adding to the list.
People don’t just get lucky in life. And they work hard to make their own dreams a reality. When they hit an obstacle, when it gets tough, they find a way to find the positive and move past it.
Lose negative thoughts instantly and focus on what you can do to be positive. Focus on the good and lose those negatives. You will also have to lose that victim mindset, the mindset of negative toxic people live by, and people can not help them. They seek to destroy others to feel better within themselves. You can give something back to those who are reasonable people and help others. You can be bigger and better than they can ever be.
Your past is over. Close that book. Don’t cheat yourself out of a positive future by living in your past. Your past no longer exists. The here and now, the present moment, is what exists.
When you keep hold of resentment, you will only suffer. You need to become happy within yourself, and then things will become perfect. You’ll be able to laugh off toxic people’s negative behaviour. It’ll no longer consume you. With your inner happiness, and wisdom on toxic people, new-found boundaries and saying no, to things you don’t find acceptable, you’ll have a self-made shield around you to deflect toxic people away from you.
Life isn’t always perfect, life is hard, but if you can get into that positive place, it’ll become easier to deal with a hard times, go through them, release them and go again.
See the good in everything, but understand that some people can not be helped and leave them be.
Forgive those who have hurt you. It’s in the past. You have to accept that it happened to you and let it go. You don’t have to accept that it was ok. Abuse is never ok, and there is no excuse, but forgiving yourself, as you didn’t have the understanding of what all the manipulation, gaslighting, word salad, and blame-shifting were doing to you.
Forgiveness is for you to release yourself from them, to free yourself from your past, to release that hope that it couldn’t have been any different, and it was what it was. That it’s your past and not your present-day, holding on to resentment will only hold you to your past.
When you learn to hold grudges no longer, you become a better person, and you allow yourself to move forward in your own life with self-respect and dignity.
No one person is better than another, yet you’re allowed to judge. I don’t mean to judge others in a negative way. I mean, recognise they are toxic, make the judgment call they are not the person you want in your life and walk the other way.
To gain happiness and success in your future, you need to take the steps in your present, to put your past where it belongs, and leave it behind you. The time is now at this moment to allow yourself the freedom, to allow yourself happiness, to forgive, and find yourself again.
You do not have to condone toxic people’s behaviour, but while you are letting your past keep you, hostage, you are the one that’s suffering, and they still have power and control over you. Now is the time to release them from your mind. And keep going until you do.
Day by day, it gets easier, you become stronger, you live happier, you create a happier life, moving on for you is the best thing you’ll ever do.
Coercive Controlling Behaviour.
Check these out!
15 Rules To Deal With Narcissistic People.: How To Stay Sane And Break The Chain.
Narcissists Handbook: The ultimate guide to understanding and overcoming narcissistic and emotional abuse.-1
Boundaries with Narcissists: Safeguarding Emotional, Psychological, and Physical Independence.
Hilarious (and Horrifying) Narcissistic Memes And Their Meanings.
Healing from Narcissistic Abuse: A Guided Journal for Recovery and Empowerment: Reclaim Your Identity, Build Self-Esteem, and Embrace a Brighter Future
Elizabeth Shaw is not a Doctor or a therapist. She is a mother of five, a blogger, a survivor of narcissistic abuse, and a life coach, She always recommends you get the support you feel comfortable and happy with. Finding the right support for you. Elizabeth has partnered withBetterHelp(Sponsored.) where you will be matched with a licensed councillor, who specialises in recovery from this kind of abuse.
The beginning, the middle and the end, can you relate? Some of you may miss a few some of you may add a few. All though relationships with a narcissist are all similar. They’re not all exactly the same.
Stage one. You get into a relationship with a fantastic person believing you’ve met the one. Your soulmate you have found, They are perfect in every way, with dating you are now done.
Stage two. The narcissist changes towards you, arguments, gaslighting, the silent treatment and much more, you should really kick them out and close the door, but you don’t see it as them being the problem. You’ve been manipulated into thinking it’s all down to you. So you work harder to please them again in everything that you do.
Stage three. They leave you for someone new. They’ve been on dating sights, perhaps getting close to someone you knew. They make you look crazy to the new person. All while they are enjoying triangulating you. The new person doesn’t understand that their situation will also worsen.
Stage four. They come back. You believe they’ve changed because of the trauma bond and the love you had in the beginning before their mask slipped. You give it another go. When the reality of what you now know, you should have really said NO.
Stage five. The narcissist changes towards you again, yet you still don’t see it to be them because of all the manipulation. The narcissist continues against you with great calculation.
Stage six. They leave again, not giving you any answers, not wanting to talk to you, no closer given. Threats towards you are made. You may have finally left them knowing they’ll never give to you any of those promises they once made.
Stage seven. You try to find answers for yourself and look on google as your mind starts to wonder. What you discover leaves your mind in a ponder.
Stage eight. The narcissist comes back to make amends because of all the self-doubt they have given you. You decided not to believe in all that you read. There are different types of narcissists on a spectrum. Yes, most narcissistic people cannot be cured, but Perhaps you can be the one to help, and you can change them, or you’re busy thinking,” Am I the narcissist?” so you try again. Or you think they made a genuine mistake. For it to cycle back around to the end yet again.
Stage nine. Now it is the end one final time. Getting out wasn’t easy. You decided enough is enough of their threats of violence, but you’re not going to keep your silence. You go to the police and get a restraining order. To keep them away from you so you can start rebuilding your life. Now to the narcissist, you’ve created your own border.
Stage ten. You’re back on the internet again trying to learn more about who they are, as this helps you recover and discover to who you indeed are.
Stage eleven. You get to a stage after learning about the narcissist that actually you are no longer afraid of them and their manipulative mind games. You know who they are and everything they do. You know that they can not change. You know all of their ways. Some you may need to move far away. You can start to learn to love and trust in yourself. Learn to love and trust others again. You start to pity the narcissist because you know it’s something they’ll never be able to do.
You even feel pity for the replacement; to them, you no longer hold any resentment. Knowing they’re at the start of the journey of everything you’ve just been through.
Stage twelve. You think about warning that new person as you’re a good-hearted person with empathy that doesn’t want to see others come to harm. Then you remember where it all started and how the narcissist told you all of the exes are all crazy. You know the narcissist will have made out to them that you are too. Feeling sad you can not help, you leave well alone, as that battle is not for you to do. You have to move forward and do what’s right for you.
Stage thirteen. Your clarity becomes clearer day by day. They may still be playing games as you grow stronger and start loving yourself more in every way. You realise what a warped and insane person your ex truly is. You give no reaction to the games they try to play. They look rather silly playing alone. You know they can never change their behaviour. You know everything you’ve been through and how you’ve acted is completely normal behaviour that normal people who love and have empathy in that situation would also do. Now all the self-doubts you had are starting to waiver.
Stage fourteen. You’ve given yourself closure and know it’s time to move on because, from today, your new life has begun.
You know about narcissists and all that they do, how similar they are in so many ways. You start to enjoy all of your days. You know how others have been in similar situations, so you start reaching out to others. To help with recovery as, knowing you are not alone helping rebuild your trust. You trust in others that have got through it before. You’re no longer afraid to speak up as in your life. The narcissist is no more.
Stage fifteen. Your positive thoughts are growing day by day. You can see clearly in your authentic way, and the future seems brighter than it ever was before. For Yourself, you begin to open that new door.
Stage sixteen. You look back on the experience and see it for precisely what it was. You know the narcissist will always be stuck in that warped lonely mind of theirs. The relationship was no good for you. You did not benefit. You now know this is all true.
Stage seventeen. You have grown stronger and wiser than you were before. You know the signs to look out for in those real energy draining vampires that exist out there in our world. You are genuinely at peace and happy within yourself again. You are no longer interested in the abuse that they hurl.
Stage eighteen. The narcissist no longer has any hold over you in any way, shape or form. Although you may think of that narcissist now and again, you know you were never to blame. You no longer want to see or contact them. You’re in control of your own life. The narcissist will always be in some form of strife.
As thinking about the narcissist becomes less and less, you know they have no feelings and do not care about anyone other than themselves. Healing is evident within yourself. You see that narcissists might reappear. To try and destroy everything you’ve gained. You are hoping never to see or hear from them again, now though you are wiser and so much stronger. Weak, you are no longer.
So narcissists, well done, you won achieved everything you wanted. You messed with my head and my life in every single way. Savour your victory’s as they’ll never last. Because of you, I’m stronger and happier than the person I was in the past. You helped teach me who I am today, and you inspired me. So thank you for all the lessons you gave. Because in life now, I’m winning. Whereas you’ll always be stuck at the beginning, circling around again and again. In that empty soul, you have to which I’m not to blame.
So, whatever stage of the journey you are at. Believe in yourself, happiness again you will achieve.
Check these out!
15 Rules To Deal With Narcissistic People.: How To Stay Sane And Break The Chain.
Narcissists Handbook: The ultimate guide to understanding and overcoming narcissistic and emotional abuse.-1
Boundaries with Narcissists: Safeguarding Emotional, Psychological, and Physical Independence.
Hilarious (and Horrifying) Narcissistic Memes And Their Meanings.
Healing from Narcissistic Abuse: A Guided Journal for Recovery and Empowerment: Reclaim Your Identity, Build Self-Esteem, and Embrace a Brighter Future
Elizabeth Shaw is not a Doctor or a therapist. She is a mother of five, a blogger, a survivor of narcissistic abuse, and a life coach, She always recommends you get the support you feel comfortable and happy with. Finding the right support for you. Elizabeth has partnered withBetterHelp(Sponsored.) where you will be matched with a licensed councillor, who specialises in recovery from this kind of abuse.
Why is it the narcissist can never see your point of view
Narcissists are experts at using manipulation to keep their victims confused, trapped, and emotionally dependent. One of their favourite tactics is to gaslight, distorting reality until you doubt your own perceptions. They use pity plays, silent treatments, and projection to paint themselves as victims while casting you as the villain. Occasionally, they’ll switch things up and act nice, throwing you off balance and making you question whether you’re being too harsh or unfair. These cycles of manipulation keep you in a trance, disconnected from the truth of their behaviour.
Hilarious (and Horrifying) Narcissistic Memes And Their Meanings.
A major strategy narcissists use isblame-shifting. When confronted with their toxic behaviour, they redirect the blame onto you. Suddenly, their faults become your responsibility. You start doubting your thoughts, your decision-making, and even your self-worth. The web of lies they spin is strong, and once you’re caught in it, it’s hard to see the truth.
During the relationship, you might find yourself constantly asking, “Why are they so angry? What did I do wrong this time?” or “Why are they giving me the silent treatment again?” These thoughts are exactly how narcissists trap you. They manipulate you into believing that you’re the problem, and you start obsessing over how you can improve to make things better. But no matter what you do, it will never be enough for a narcissist. They will always demand more.
This relentless pursuit of perfection from you is their way of ensuring control. They criticise everything you do, from how you act to how you dress. Even if you try to please them, like making breakfast the way they’ve asked, they’ll find a way to criticise you, throwing the food away in disgust. You’re left cleaning up the mess, both literally and emotionally, while they sulk or demand your help, all the while putting you down with backhanded compliments like, “Are you really going to wear that?”
The narcissist thrives on creating chaos and confusion. On a day when you’ve planned something special, they’ll purposely sabotage it. Their bad mood might seem to come out of nowhere, and yet, they’ll act like nothing is wrong. You start second-guessing everything: your plans, your outfit, your actions. Meanwhile, the narcissist keeps shifting between moods, from sulking to being playful in front of others, leaving you feeling disoriented and unstable. They’ve mastered the art of making you look like the one with the problem while they appear calm and in control.
But the manipulation doesn’t stop there. Narcissists also attack yourfinances, creating a dependency that further entraps you. Imagine a day out with your children. You’ve lent the narcissist money, which they promised to return so you could pay for lunch. Yet, when it’s time to pay, they conveniently “forget” their promise. You’re left embarrassed, scrambling for cash while they order food as if it’s your job to provide for them. When confronted, they may react dramatically, throwing money on the floor and storming out. This scene serves to confuse and humiliate you further, while they bask in the attention and sympathy of onlookers.
These manipulative games don’t just drain your finances; they also damage yourcredibilityand reputation. Narcissists are masters of smear campaigns. They twist the truth and manipulate others into believing you are the one who is difficult or unstable. After the dramatic scene in the takeaway, they might play the role of the loving parent while making subtle comments to your children or friends, painting you as the problem.
As theirgaslightingescalates, you begin to question your ownsanity. They manipulate your reality, making you believe you’re overreacting or imagining things. Gaslighting, coupled with theirprojection, keeps you emotionally disoriented. They project their own flaws and insecurities onto you, accusing you of the very things they are guilty of, like being controlling or unreasonable.
Narcissists also aim to destroy yourconfidence. They criticise and belittle you at every opportunity, from your appearance to your intelligence, ensuring that you begin to feel inadequate. This relentless erosion of your self-worth makes you doubt your abilities, your decisions, and even your right to be happy.
Another key target for narcissists is yourfreedom. They will isolate you from friends, family, and anyone who could offer you support. The more isolated you become, the more dependent you are on them. Your world becomes smaller and smaller until you feel completely trapped.
And finally, theemotional stresscaused by narcissistic abuse can take a serious toll on yourhealth. Anxiety, depression, and even physical ailments often accompany the emotional and psychological abuse. You may not even realise how much damage has been done until you’re physically and emotionally exhausted.
But why do narcissists do this? Understanding a narcissist’s toxic logic can help you detach emotionally and see their behaviour for what it really is. Narcissists are deeply insecure individuals who live in a world of black-and-white thinking. To them, they are superior, entitled, and always right. They need to be in control of everyone and everything around them. When things don’t go their way, they lash out, and anyone who criticises them is seen as an enemy.
They rewrite history to avoid accountability, refusing to accept responsibility for their actions. They believe their version of events is the only truth, and they manipulate others to maintain this distorted reality. Narcissists lack empathy, meaning they cannot understand or care about the pain they inflict on others. Your emotions and needs are irrelevant to them; only their desires matter.
Breaking free from a narcissist is challenging, but it’s essential to reclaim your life.No contact,grey rock, andno reactionare critical strategies to weaken their hold on you. By refusing to engage, you take away the attention and emotional reactions they crave.
Reclaiming your mind is the first step toward healing. You’ve likely been conditioned to doubt yourself, to live in fear and anxiety, but you can reset your mindset. It’s a process, but it’s possible. Every time an old, limiting belief pops up, challenge it. Replace thoughts like “I’m not good enough” with “I am worthy.” Replace “I can’t do this” with “I am strong and capable.”
Remember,the only person you need to be good enough for is yourself. The narcissist’s treatment of you reflects who they are, not who you are. Surround yourself with positive influences, focus on your mental health, and gradually rebuild your life. The journey may be difficult, but in the end, you’ll rediscover your worth, your strength, and your freedom. You’ve survived the storm, and now it’s time to thrive.
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Elizabeth Shaw is not a Doctor or a therapist. She is a mother of five, a blogger, a survivor of narcissistic abuse, and a life coach, She always recommends you get the support you feel comfortable and happy with. Finding the right support for you. Elizabeth has partnered withBetterHelp(Sponsored.) where you will be matched with a licensed councillor, who specialises in recovery from this kind of abuse.
