Overcoming narcissist Abuse, by Elizabeth Shaw.
If you had a narcissistic partner, they may have narcissistic parents, who would always back up their narcissistic child.
Not all narcissists have narcissistic parents, if yours did, always remember that you know the truth.
Those narcissists who have a narcissistic parent, will have been raised, having their minds programmed to think a narcissistic way, this isn’t always the case, children can and do grow up to break free from the narcissistic family, not always but usually the scapegoat child or the forgotten child, that just had a sense that something wasn’t right.
Narcissist are filled with, rage and envy, very self centred and self entitled, yet deep down they are full of self-hatred and have to project this onto those around them, they are incapable to truly understand what they do, and any that do are incapable of seeing it as their problem, they just believe they are better than you. All narcissists identities are false, often using qualities of those around them, to pass off as their own and their mask will slip, narcissists just have no empathy.
A narcissist personality disorder is on a spectrum, so depending on where about your narcissist was on the spectrum and their family members, will depend on the treatment you receive. They may be overt, covert, somatic, cerebral, vulnerable or malignant.
When your ex-narcissist, comes from a family of narcissists, if you speak the truth, you would become the centre of a mass smear campaign.
Your narcissist’s ex, family members, will spread gossip far and wide, about how you are the crazy one.
Once you have learned the truth of the other narcissists in your ex’s family, and the things they do to others. They will go all out to destroy you, so not only will you be up against the narcissist, but the narcissistic family members also.
Some narcissistic families will just cut get the entire family to cut you out and turn against you, smearing your name to family members, who are not narcissistic.
The narcissist, in general, will spin reality around, to their own version, with lies, manipulation, gaslighting, cruelty, putting fear in you so you dare not speak up.
The family member will deny all truths, even if they saw their own, brother, sister, son or daughter miss treat you or your children, they will all blame shift it onto you, to protect the family of narcissists, they do not care for each other, they care for the family name, their status, their pride, especially if the narcissist you was with happened to be the golden child.
Narcissistic in-laws will always blame you for their child’s behaviour, it will never be their child, narcissistic in-laws and siblings unless they see someone to gain to go against the narcissist will side with the narcissist.
Once you leave a narcissistic relationship, you’ll often end up alone, and as narcissism isn’t very well know, although awareness is growing. People often don’t believe what you tell them unless they know about NPD, or they’ve been through it themselves, therefore often the narcissistic family is believed and you are painted as the crazy one.
There are plenty of people out there that do understand, join support groups, and don’t be afraid to ask anything, they will be able to help you understand and recover onto a much happier, fulfilling life.