The Narcissist Personality Disorder is on a spectrum, and someone would need at least five of the nine characteristics in the DSM-5.
1. Arrogant or Haughty behaviour. Unpleasantly proud of behaving in an offensive manner, like they know more than others or are more important than others.
- Trying to prove themselves as superior.
- Often putting others down.
- They cannot see their weaknesses.
- They cannot see their own mistakes.
- Refusal to admit fault.
- Regularly breaks agreements.
- Rarely to never saying sorry, only blame shifting false apologies of “I’m sorry you.”
- Flaunts success.
- Argumentative.
- Complains when things don’t go their way.
- Controlling.
- Points out others’ flaws.
- Averse to criticism.
- Stubborn.
- Overbearing.
- Always puts their needs before others.
2. A belief they are special, setting goals based on seeking attention from those they require attention from.
- They expect praise and recognition if they do something.
- Expects people to be eternally grateful.
- Believes they’re entitled to special treatment or attention.
- They have no problem telling outright lies, often believing their own lies.
- Talks about themselves.
- Know it all.
- Their thoughts, feelings, opinions are fact. Anyone who disagrees is wrong.
- Double standards, they should have privacy, you shouldn’t.
- If they achieve, it’s down to hard work. If others achieve, it’s down to luck or thanks to the narcissist.
- Have things their own way, stubborn.
- Humiliate others if they lose. Gloat if they win.
- Puts others down to feel better about themselves.
- Exaggerates achievements.
- They are entitled to have things their way.
- Lack of respect for rules and boundaries.
3. Lack of empathy, unable to identify or recognise the thoughts, feelings, needs of others.
- Oblivious to others’ feelings.
- Gets annoyed when people expect them to understand how the narcissist hurt them.
- Always right.
- Refusal to admit fault.
- Refusal to listen to other perspectives.
- Acts insensitive to others’ pain, saying,” You’re overreacting, don’t be so sensitive, it was only a joke.”
- Blames all others for problems.
- Difficulty maintaining healthy relationships.
- It’s all about them.
- Doesn’t recognise the pain they cause others.
- Argumentative.
- Not sympathetic shows little compassion.
4. Envy, seeking to destroy those they are envious of, believing others are envious of them.
- Trying to outdo others.
- Putting others down.
- Rarely congratulates others.
- Always finds the negative in others’ achievements.
- Talks badly of others.
- Claims others have all the luck.
- Discredits others’ achievements.
- Talks highly of themselves or blames others for their troubles.
- Doesn’t offer any encouragement.
- Not supportive of others.
- Doesn’t like others receiving praise.
- They don’t compliment others, only flattery.
- False or insincere praise.
- Takes credit for others’ achievements.
- Humiliates people.
- Downplays others’ success.
- Gossips.
5. Entitled, has unreasonable expectations of special treatment.
- Rarely helps out unless there’s something in it for them.
- Expects others to help them.
- Happy to take unwillingly to give.
- Believes they deserve special treatment.
- Will not accept responsibility.
- Always passes blame.
- Rarely admits fault “I’m sorry you, I’m sorry but, I’m sorry if.”
- No matter what you give them, or whatever they have, they always want more.
- Envious of others.
- Claims others have all the luck.
- Always finding something to complain about.
- Lack of self-awareness.
6. Exploitative takes advantage of others to meet their own needs.
- Quick involvement.
- Only interested in things that suit them.
- Controlling.
- Lie a lot.
- Find ways to punish others.
- Financial abuse.
- Isolates people.
- Play on people’s vulnerabilities.
- Make others feel guilty.
- Two or more personalities.
- Spin a good story.
- Exaggerates a lot.
- Future fakes.
- Takes advantage of situations.
- Secretive.
- Mood swings.
- Uses others for their own gains.
- Cheating.
7. Grandiose expects to be recognised as superior.
- Unrealistic sense of self.
- They are preoccupied with themselves.
- Self-absorbed.
- Expects special treatment.
- Sees themselves as above others, intellect, class, beauty etc.
- Exaggerates talents.
- Lies about the things they’ve done.
- Puts others down.
- Unrealistic high standards.
- Talks about themselves a lot.
- Boastful.
- Common rules don’t apply to them. They do to you.
- Selfish.
- Quick to anger.
- Not caring for those they hurt.
- High-risk takers.
8. Requires excessive admiration. Identity often comes from borrowed dreams of those around them, needed a constant supply of attention to regulating their self-esteem.
- Pointing out achievements.
- Fishing for compliments.
- Only doing because they want, expect demand praise.
- Causing conflict, drama, arguments.
- Goading to gain reactions from others.
- Blaming others.
- Cheating.
- Exaggerating.
- Making others feel guilty.
- Being controversial just to provoke reactions.
- Complaining often.
- Playing the victim.
9. Preoccupied with their ideal relationship, fantasies of ultimate power and success.
- Lives in a fantasy world.
- Exaggerating achievements.
- Exploits others.
- Doesn’t see others’ points of view.
- Liars.
- Denying their behaviour.
- Arrogant.
- Ideal views.
- Quick to anger if others go against them.
- Not giving unless they can take.
- Only loyal to their own needs.
- Requires praise if they do for others—criticism of others.
The nine traits of NPD.
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