Things You Do That A Narcissist Hates.

Narcissistic people seem to get a real kick out of going around destroying others, without a second thought. Looking like they’ve swanned off into the sunset, with your past, present and future, most of us are left trying to work out what went off and why if they are so happy are they still trying to destroy us.

The best thing you can ever do is go no contact, here’s a few things narcissist’s hate you doing before and after the relationship, often getting them to up their games to hurt you more, if you’re trying to co-parent parent with all the manipulative they through at you, here are a few things to avoid doing in a direct manner. Also helps with family members you can not completely remove as you might lose good family members for doing so, or work colleagues.

1. When you say no.

A narcissistic person believes they are right, and they are above all others, they believe they are entitled, they love taking down other people’s boundaries one by one. This doesn’t mean don’t say no to them, this means, say your no, mean your no, expect the unexpected as they up their games to break down your boundaries. Do not react to them. They do not want your reasons, they do not want your explanation they are not wanting to compromise. They want control, they want your attention and to win at all costs to you. They will use all your weaknesses against you. So be prepared. Stick to your no, do not respond and do not react. You could also find different ways to say no, so it’s not a direct no or a no that makes the narcissist think it was their idea.

2. When you see through them and no longer play their games.

Once you have a greater awareness and understanding of who they indeed are, why they do what they do, and stop reacting towards them, they feel powerless and weak, resulting again in most narcissistic people, upping their games. Their pride and their ego are damaged, when you’re no longer listening to their lies. This is one of those moments when they’ll tell you. “You’re crazy.” As they try endless gaslighting tactics to get you to doubt your reality and nothing’s working. By no longer playing their games, it harms their self-importance and control over others.

3. When you start doing things that make you happy and becoming yourself again.

Most Narcissistic parents hate it when they lose control over their children. As you grow and distance yourself, having a life of your own, they’ll often pity play, or try making you feel guilty for being yourself, A narcissistic ex-partner, doesn’t want to see others happy or doing better than them, they feel great envy and jealous, they may up their games by,

  • Trying to show off the new partner to you.
  • Letting down the children, using the most precious things you care for against you.
  • Mind games with the children.
  • Trying to hoover you, so that they can destroy you all over again.
  • Try to ruin your plans any way they can.
  • Threaten you.
  • Smear your name.

A narcissistic person simply believes they should be the centre of attention, and they do not care for positive or negative, they just want you thinking about them. Whoever the narcissist is in your life, this is why it’s best you don’t let them know anything about you, blocking flying monkeys, if it regards children. Grey rock. Simple facts to the point on a need to know basis. They resent others being happy as they are so unhappy with themselves.

4. When you no longer feel fear or guilt towards them.

They want to be in control at all cost, they want you full of fear, afraid to speak up or go against them, they want you feeling guilty. So you give in and do exactly what they want. Narcissist parents, friends, work colleagues and partners can use these tactics to make you conform. They might threaten you with by saying they’ll tell others your secrets, your deepest fears. Some are dangerous, so stay safe, others are not and are full of empty threats. Or guilt trip you with pity plays, from faking illnesses to saying you’re hurting someone you love by not giving in to the narcissist’s demands. So long as your intentions are good. Listen to yourself and your instincts and not the self-doubt their toxic words are trying to feed you.

5. When you put the blame back onto who it belongs.

The narcissist is deluded. They even delude themselves, and they don’t feel guilt or remorse, not on the same way we do, they might feel shame, or fear consequences, to remove that shame, they blame all others, projecting and blame-shifting all their insecurities, wrongdoings and problems onto others, they can not handle it when you do not take the blame. Be prepared for theit. ”You’re crazy.” Or ”you’re insecure, and you’re sensitive.” Then the. “If you hadn’t, I wouldn’t.” Do not react, they’re not looking to sort it out. They’re looking to put all responsibility onto you, so they are not accountable and don’t feel the same. When they are smearing you to others, and you rise above not reacting, they hate this as it’s destroying the illusion they are trying to pass onto others about you, many will up their games to try and get you to react so they can say. “See I told you they were.”

6. When you move on with your life, reconnect with old friends and family. Find your confidence, inner love, sense of self and happiness.

This is why it’s best they know as little about you as possible as if they believe you’re doing well without them, most will come for the hoover, as they believe they can use you again to meet a need. Narcissistic people also isolate you by triangulation, manipulation and gaslighting. They want you alone, so you only have them for a reality check, then when they are bored, they can swoop back in whenever they want to rescue you, then destroy you again. This is why it’s best if you don’t want the hoover they know nothing about you. If it’s friends or family, the less they know, the better, the less they belittle you and try to plants seeds of doubt in your mind about others, so you’ll no longer need to go to them for a reality check. Always look inwards to yourself and your instincts. They want to be in control of all others. Using any manipulation method they can.

7. When you leave and never go back.

This is one where most narcissistic people will try to destroy you any way they possibly can, and they feel great criticism. They want and need power and control as they believe they are above all others. They want to be able to use others whenever it suits a need for them.

No one throws a bigger tantrum than a narcissist whose losing control of someone else’s mind.

To a narcissist, people are an appliance. Where we buy a mobile phone, then if we damage it by cracking the screen, we either get it fixed or buy a new, if the new one breaks, we might see if we can make do with the old one, until the new one is fixed, or we can purchase another new one. If we lose our phones, most of us are annoyed with ourselves.

They want all others to be dependent on them, and they want people to believe they are nothing without them. It breaks their illusion of power and control when others just walk away. Again don’t let them know anything about you, if they think you have something to offer, something they can use, they will either try to win you back to use you or destroy you.

Some narcissistic people are lazy, will just leave you alone, others give up their games quicker. Some my fear you were outing them and leave you alone. Some will up their games.

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