The narcissists reality gap.

Overcoming narcissist Abuse by Elizabeth Shaw.

A narcissist reality holds a big gap between actual reality.

Any shortcomings or failings the narcissist has, they will either deny or project onto others.

They believe they are above all others, wiser, stronger and better, even on the lower end of the scale that deeply insecure victim narcissist, who just doesn’t get why people don’t see it from their reality, none are accountable so believe their problems are caused by those around them and then seek revenge, deep down the good majority are hurting and insecure, screaming out for attention any way they can, from the golden period to smearing others, it’s all about them being and staying in control.

Whatever hobby they do, they believe they are the best, if they do not win at a game, of course to them it was not their fault it was fixed, if a piece of writing wasn’t good enough, it’s those who read it that are at fault, not that others are allowed opinions, just that others who don’t agree must be stupid.

The lower end achieve their aims by being aggressive and rude, putting fear into others, as well as the victim route.

The middle will do it with extreme jealousy. Silent treatments. And victim play

The upper end of the spectrum being aggressive but on a more calculated streamlined way.

Those on the lower end of the spectrum, the lesser narcissist, go through life doing and taking as they please whatever they want from those around them. Leaving behind a trail of destruction. They believe they are entitled to do as they please, claim what they like, no one is allowed to stand in their way if someone does they will often seek some form of revenge. Wearing the same designer jacket and tracksuit bottoms with what they believe to be designer trainers, that they believe speaks for how wealthy they are, even if it was all purchased for them by an ex, until they can find a new to buy them more, how we see clothes as our own unique individual taste, and if people want to wear, jeans, tracksuits, trousers, skirts whatever people want to wear for themselves, narcissistic people always believe it shows to others just how important they are, especially those in the suits. They may work on the factory floor as my ex-narcissist did, with normal people, there’s nothing wrong with these jobs, with a narcissist they are the best on that floor, they only reason they’ve never moved up, is because they believe all others just sucked up to get higher positions and they are unwilling to lower themselves to do so. That’s the excuse they tell themselves and all those willing to listen.

They will never see their own inadequacies, and live in a delusional world that they have achieved more and deserve more than all others if they haven’t that, of course, will be someone else’s fault.

The ones in the middle of the spectrum, they may well have a great education, great jobs, excellent incomes, music or sporting achievements, they will often have everyone around them fooled and be very well liked, even admired for their achievements, which they will brag and they will boost, and they will exaggerate. The silent treatment and guilt trip to keep a grasp on their unique reality. These actually have the biggest reality gap, out of all other narcissists on the spectrum, they will demand help and support from others with pity plays and the incredible sulk. The sulk brought on because they have the odd moment of seeing real reality before they shut it down and go back into their false world full of negativity to others, manipulation and lies. The shortfall of what they are and what they want to often give them a massive blow to their own ego.

Those higher functioning narcissists on the spectrum that have, the high powers jobs, the cars, the suits, the homes and the holidays. Those famous ones also that have sold records, down to Adolf hitter who invaded countries, they have no sense of remorse, they are full of self-entitlement, because of their achievements this on emphasis they’ve reality that they are above all others, no matter who they are or what they achieve, even those who have done extremely well for themselves it is still not enough, they need more, they still believe their own reality that they are entitled to everything they have, even when they’ve stomped destroyed and even killed others to get where they are, they still won’t need and believe they deserve so much more.

People on the narcissist personality disorder spectrum do live in reality, the false reality that they are above all others and worth more than they are, with no care thoughts or feeling to others in how they get their needs met and all others are to blame for their own faults.

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