A Narcissistic Relationship Is Just An Illusion.

It’s all one big illusion.

We fall madly, truly and deeply in love with the most amazing person we have ever met, yet it’s not real.

Those first few days, weeks, months, and some years; we believe we’ve met to most amazing, kind, generous, loving person, some may have had a really difficult past, with everything their ex put them though, and we know we can make them feel so much better, whether you got together with the victim narcissist or the grandiose, it was all an illusion the narcissist just manipulated you, from beginning to end. Most will try even after the relationship had ended.

They start off by finding out everything they possibly can about us, from friends, family, social media, conversations with us and stalking through our social media; they will mirror all our likes and dislikes, they may come along as our hero, to good to be true, and yes they are too good to be true,

Then they will slowly devalue you through many manipulation methods, such as gaslighting, projection, silent treatment, verbal abuse, pity plays, lying, cheating, threats, physical violence, triangulation, to slowly take away your self-esteem, self-trust, self-worth, your belongings.

That’s nothing compared to the aftermath; once you do finally escape them.

Once you are out, they somehow manage to fill every single bit of your headspace; you know it was all lies. Still, you’ve been left with so many questions. Endless emotions that seem to be taking control of your life, even now you’re free of them, how is it possible they still have so much control over your mind, the trauma bond and all that manipulation does not help you process it all to move forward, and it’s an uphill battle to start.

Not only have you got to wean yourself off them, which is as hard as coming off any drug, you might also need to rebuild your life from scratch and learn the whole relationship was a complete lie and an illusion, the person you fell in love with never truly existed.

You know you try to be an honest, reasonable, unconditional loving kind, respectful of others, of person that wants to help others.

The strength of character you have, is often why the narcissist picked you out in the first place meaning, you have every ability to start your life over and make it bigger and better than it ever was before.

You can learn to trust your instincts, rebuild your self-esteem and self-worth, restore your bank balance. They never can; it’s a long hard journey, but believe me, if you work at it, and you keep working at it, you will get to where you want to be, now is the time to do what you want when you want, without having to answer to anyone. Create new dreams just for you; get any help and advice you need moving forward; you are not alone in this. Stay strong and keep going; stay no contact or grey rock, always and forever.

The cycle of a relationship with a narcissist.

The narcissist’s illusion.

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Elizabeth Shaw is not a Doctor or a therapist. She is a mother of five, a blogger, a survivor of narcissistic abuse, and a life coach, She always recommends you get the support you feel comfortable and happy with. Finding the right support for you. Elizabeth has partnered with BetterHelp (Sponsored.) where you will be matched with a licensed councillor, who specialises in recovery from this kind of abuse.

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Future Faking.

One thought on “A Narcissistic Relationship Is Just An Illusion.

  1. Thank you for your web it’s something I stumbled across on a dark day . I’ve come to realize I have a brother with these symptoms who lives with us …a true narcissist sadly!

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