Helping you help yourself, helps your children too.
Coming away from a narcissistic relationship is heartbreaking if you left them or they discarded you. You need to grieve the loss of those false dreams, set yourself a time limit, then create new dreams and take the steps to achieve this.
It might seem hard now, especially if you’ve been left with adrenal fatigue, anxiety, no home. Trust and believe in yourself, you will make it through this.
Start by creating a stable routine for you and your children to give your life some certainty in uncertain times, and when the children see the other parent, this will help you and your children know exactly where they are and when. Stick to this routine no matter what the ex it throwing your way. You are doing this for your children’s, safety, security and happiness. Have a backup plan if the ex is a no show, keep smiling, tell those subconscious negative thoughts to go away, and consciously focus on the good things in your life, happy thoughts.
Implement this into your own daily life if you do not already have a routine set up. Even if you do, you always have room for improvement and to grow in all areas of your life. Simply start the day by making your bed. This is one task complete. You can tell yourself you’ve achieved something no matter how small. It helps with all other areas in your life. Baby steps keep building on those achievements, if you take a couple of steps back, remember how far you’ve come and why you started.
Take time out for yourself to relax and stay focused on the present moment, especially when things feel tough.
If you have had a busy day and you’ll not be able to achieve a task that will take an hour, and you hadn’t planned to do it in that day, then choose a simple 5 min task. Put the washing on, wipe the kitchen side. Empty the dishwasher, etc., tell yourself you can do it.
Stay focused stay positive.
If you’re struggling with negative thoughts and getting a lot of them, start writing it down.
Then next to those negative thoughts, write what you could have changed within yourself on that thought. Write about what you could have done better to achieve a better outcome.
Always listen to your instincts, turn inwards and listen to yourself, you lived it, you know what’s best for you and your children.
One strong, happy, safe, loving parent is enough for your children to grow up happy and secure.
Working on a happier you, your self-love and your self-esteem each and every day, focus on where you’d like to be one year from now and take those steps to make your new dreams your new reality.
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