Rebuilding Your Trust.
Learning to trust again after a negative, toxic or narcissistic relationship, it might seem impossible but tell yourself it is possible.
Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.
Mistrust is a learned behaviour, and now you need to unlearn it. You need to learn for yourself how to trust yourself again first.
It is all in the power of your own mindset, and you can change how you think, so it works for you and never against you.
Start by telling yourself you are ok, then believe it within yourself. You are complete as a person, you do not need someone else to complete you. People can compliment who you are as you can them, they don’t complete you as you don’t them, only you define you, only you complete you, those who drain you leave in your past, those who inspire who you are, walk with into your future.
Learn your values and beliefs to create and stick to your boundaries so you can learn to trust within yourself again.
Affirm the positive You can not be in a new relationship if you’re still in the belief that once trust is broken, it will never become back, you can learn to trust yourself again then you’ll trust in others again, just because you couldn’t trust the narcissist in your life, does not mean you can not trust anyone, it means to listen to those instincts.
You can not project your unhappy past into your present and expect to be happy.
Tell yourself with love, I am open to trusting another person. I am open to trusting my own heart, and I’m open to trusting my own intuition.
Do not tell yourself you can not trust anyone anymore, instead think of someone you can trust or something you can trust, even if that someone is yourself. Tell yourself you can trust yourself.
Listen more to your own intuition and be observant.
What are they like with other people? What have their past relationships been like? are all the exes crazy? If so, that person probably drove them crazy. Don’t get me wrong, we can all have that one crazy ex, but not all exes would be crazy.
Listen carefully to how they talk about others.
Listen to how they talk about themselves.
Listen to see what things they are positive about and how much negativity they hold within themselves.
Do they spread gossip?
Only share small ideas at first when meeting new people and see what happens.
Trust them from the start but don’t give them all your secrets, trust is earned over time.
What you think about usually comes about, changing your mindset of how you think, no more why is this happening to me, but more what is this teaching me?
Believe in yourself and that you deserve trusting relationships, with friends, family, and partners.
Be in control of yourself; be in control of your own response. Be in control of your personal trust. You must learn to love and trust yourself again before you can learn to trust others again.
Tune in and listen to your instincts, you can ask what someone meant by something they said or did that provoked negative feelings within you, if they show understanding and compassion, then don’t do it again great, if they blame it all on you, walk away.
Learn to believe in yourself, you can and you will.
Nine types of people you should never trust.
Ten types of people who attract narcissists.
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