Feeling exhausted and fatigued in recovery.
Feeling lethargic, exhaustion, inability to get on with day to day chores, inability to lose weight, gain weight, feeling foggy, crazy and confused. If you are feeling any of these after a narcissistic relationship, they are all normal feelings when you start your journey of recovery into the rediscovery of a new, improved, happier self.
You will have most likely have started with adrenal fatigue while in a narcissistic relationship, and the symptoms can be masked with others. You may be told you are stressed and need to take time out. Adrenal fatigue is a condition with lots of different causes, some people can rest and get better, yet if you have been in an abusive relationship, you will not get better with just resting alone, so if you’re still in the relationship, you need to get out safely, as your state of mind can be a cause of adrenal fatigue.
You can have other adrenal fatigue issues, from cholesterol, insomnia, blood pressure issues, you can sleep too much, depression, anxiety, headaches, migraines. For women, your periods may change and go all over. For men, it might affect your sex drive or ability to have sex. For both men and women, it can cause lots of health conditions and side effects.
A narcissistic relationship puts you under considerable strain in all areas of your life. There can be financial stress and physical stress. Slowly your body may stop fighting. Try to get you to rest so it doesn’t shut down. It’s your minds way of protecting you from outside influences. You just don’t know it at the time.
It affects individuals differently in the extent of the symptoms you might have.
Being in a narcissistic relationship is one of the top causes of adrenal fatigue.
Symptoms don’t go the second you walk free, or adrenaline might kick in and your are up and running, then adrenal fatigue comes back out of nowhere because you’ve been doing too much, so just take recovery at a pace you are comfortable with. You have to allow yourself space, time and abilities to heal. As your body and mind is a powerful thing, it has the coping mechanisms to help you improve in yourself.
Study’s have been done that finding the positives in situations, focusing on the positive, helps you to heal, keep going, you can find the positives. You will. Then you need to make a conscious effort to keep telling yourself these, if you can not switch your thoughts, then write down five things you are grateful for, no matter how hard you have to search to find them, find them, start with one thing you can be thankful for, then build up to two, as you progress through recovery, if you take a step back and start finding negatives, stop and write down more things you’re grateful for, as you move through recovery, you will be able to find more.
Drink plenty of water to decrease the symptoms, try to eat good food, don’t totally switch diets, everything in moderation.
Time out for self-care, self-love and self-reflection, try new things and find what you’re passionate about, exercise, meditation, yoga, music. I know I speak a lot about these in recovery posts. They are key things that help most people with recovery.
Control what you can control in your life, leave what you can not, ask yourself what you can do to make today better, then find a way to do it.
You will go through anger, hurt and resentment, but you need to process them, let them out and then move past them.
It is tough to do to start with, but as you keep going, it gets easier.
It will feel uncomfortable at first. As you slowly reprogram your mindset, it will become second nature to you. Life will become a lot happier and easier.
Just keep going until you find what works for you.
Remember, you are enough and keep telling yourself that you are enough, keep telling yourself you do have the coping mechanisms to get through the worst times because you’re finding the best times.
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Elizabeth Shaw is not a Doctor or a therapist. She is a mother of five, a blogger, a survivor of narcissistic abuse, and a life coach, She always recommends you get the support you feel comfortable and happy with. Finding the right support for you. Elizabeth has partnered with BetterHelp (Sponsored.) where you will be matched with a licensed councillor, who specialises in recovery from this kind of abuse.
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I never knew this, when decided to.cut myself off this relationship, I was so.excited, declutterd my flat, confident brave happy, a week later I feel lazy, can’t sleep, not motivated , creating isolation at work and family but a week ago I felt normal, now I fell abandoned and neglected confused and alone, still feel.determined tho. Xx
You’re not alone in how you feel, baby steps each and everyday, remember how far you’ve come. Look for the things to be grateful for on those down days. Determination will get you through this.
Elizabeth, I absolutely love your information on adrenal fatigue. You stated it so well. I think this coronavirus can trigger the same uncertainty again.
I agree this Coronavirus can be a trigger to many. Stay safe.