The Narcissist’s Smirk.

A narcissists smirk is an almost irritating, arrogant, conceited, smug look. It’s an offensive smugness.

A smirk is when the narcissist is feeling smug over the pain they have caused you, they’ve got away with something they shouldn’t be doing, or they have great satisfaction in the fact they’ve done something others don’t know anything about. This shows on one level. They have an awareness of what they’re doing, whether that’s on a conscious level or subconscious, depends on the narcissist and what they’ve done.

People can smirk to deceive others but also to protect themselves.

Just because someone is pulling this face, it doesn’t mean they are a narcissist or that they are toxic. Some people smirk when they are upset or if they’re are feeling embarrassed or shy.

With a narcissist, the smirk is a malicious, unpleasant, mocking or even intimidating half-smile.

The smirk often forms at one side of the narcissist’s mouth as they feel contempt. The meaning of contempt is a despising or lack of respect, full disobedience, with an intense dislike. Narcissists feel contempt as they believe they are superior to all others and think they’re entitled to control and take advantage of others. They think if people aren’t doing what they want, that others are then worthless or beneath them, as a narcissist lacks in empathy, they have a complete disregard for how their actions might have affected those around them, only how the actions of others affect the narcissist themselves.

A smirk is also formed when a narcissist feels happiness and pleasure in the pain or suffering of another.

The smirk is a microexpression which is an involuntary flash of what they feel on the inside, showing for a moment On the outside. Through these microexpressions, people reveal what they are truly feeling. When toxic and not toxic, people are feeling an emotion, and they’re trying not to go show.

Top nine examples of when narcissistic people smirk at you. The smirk can last for a moment or a few minutes. Sometimes you just get a flash that makes you feel uneasy.

  • When they are purposely deceiving others and think that they are getting away with it. 
  • When they see your pain, either pain your suffering from external sources, when you’re telling them about something that’s happened to you and for a second, you see that smirk. Or it can be the pain they have caused you. The look makes you feel uncomfortable, yet you’re not sure why you feel uncomfortable.
  • When they then reject your thoughts, feelings or opinions when they’ve caused you to feel pain, hurt, anger, frustration through their manipulative games, actions or Conversations.
  • If you set boundaries and say no, you don’t give them what they want, so they punish you, through things like those silent treatments, so you’re upset, and they know you’re upset, they may smirk as they are pleased they’ve upset you.
  • If you ask them about something they’ve done to you, so they start Blame-shifting, gaslighting, projecting. their own insecurities and faults onto you, ” If you hadn’t.” ”You’re jealous.” as narcissists are incredibly envious of others. When you start to try and discuss or rationalise with them or start to get frustrated with them when people are provoking, it’s human nature to want to defend ourselves. They get pleasure out of the Confusion they cause within others minds, and you might catch a smirk.
  • When they are playing Mind games with you to manipulate you, or Gaslighting you, to distract you from the reality of their toxic behaviour, then when you’re left feeling confused or defensive, you might have seen that smirk. At the time not aware of what it’s about.
  • When they manage to provoke Reactions from you, so they can twist the story and blame everything on you.
  • When they think they have got one over on you when they believe they have gotten away with their behaviour.
  • When they’ve dupped someone, duper’s delight when they believe they’ve got away with manipulating or exploiting someone.

For survivors, feelings emotions such as Resentment, which is a normal emotion, especially after this kind of experience, resentment can cause people to smirk when they don’t want to show resentment. Still, for a moment it appears on their face, survivors of narcissistic abuse can show the smirk, especially when we realise just how unfairly the narcissist has treated us, feelings like jealousy, again it’s a universal emotion, and these emotions are very valid feelings with how much a narcissist puts you through, lies to you and exploits you, then walks off with your life, your belongings, leaving you feeling crushed this can also cause feelings such as anger and resentment directed towards the narcissist who has the power to provoke you. When what most people are looking for is justice. While you are in recovery, you may feel resentment towards them, as they have devalued you into feeling as though you weren’t enough, and you are still putting yourself below them, you may feel shame, feel daft, stupid, and you might be after revenge for all they’ve done to you. Therefore when we she karma hit justice served, survivors can also pull the smirk. Having contempt towards someone who tried to destroy everything about who you are doesn’t make you a narcissist. It doesn’t make you toxic. It makes you human with emotions. Not all smirks have malicious intent. Some smirks are formed because when we see someone toxic, we no longer getting away with their manipulative, toxic behaviour and justice being served. There is no wrong about being happy when justice is served, yet society makes many feel like they would need to hide it.

The narcissists smirk.

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