Overcoming Narcissist Abuse, by Elizabeth Shaw – Life Coach.
Narcissists will teach you how to behave and how to think, they slowly take control over you through their many manipulation tactics from gaslighting, silent treatment, blame shifting, projection, lying, cheating, using all your weaknesses against you, slowly destroying your emotional health, physical health and financial health. They are a leech that comes to feed all the goodness out of you. They infect you like a virus. You’re fighting and emotional warfare you knew nothing about, they drain you and then leave you empty and broken.
They believe they are superior to all others. And slowly rob you of your ability to even think straight, they brainwash you to gain further control over you.
Narcissist hate the fact you are free to live your life happily for yourself and they want to take that away from you, at all cost to you, do you want to be free?
Narcissist place fears into you to keep control over you, fear to speak out. Fear to go out and fear to leave. If you’re looking to get out never tell them I’m the person you are leaving. When they think their power and control are slipping away they will react, with the silent treatment. Pity plays. False apologies. Rage. Anger and some with violence.
You have a free will and you get to decide exactly who you want to be. A narcissist does not like that quality in others. Why when you do break free from some all hell breaks loose. So make sure you have support even if it’s online support groups.
Narcissist wants you to be who they tell you to be. You have every right to ask yourself ”who am I.” and you have every right to be exactly who you want to be for you.
Your mind controls your emotions and you control your mind, now is the time to removed the power they have over you by removing them from your mind, you are entitled to learn and grow and become who you want to be for you.
When they come at you with their endless word salad and games. Do not react, instead, go and take time to think it over, from your own perspective things like. ” is this what I truly think, or is this what they are trying to make me think so I conform.” ” what is my own opinion on this.” and dig deep to find yours, don’t let the narcissist know your opinions as they are only interested in changing that to how they believe you should think. They are not interested in you. They are only interested in using you. Your thoughts and your feelings are for you and you have every right to choose the thoughts, feelings and opinion that you want.
You get to make a choice for short term pain of breaking free and becoming yourself again or long term pain of staying and being controlled.
When you do break free all hell will break loose as a narcissist hate those who can move on and think for themselves. They want to destroy you. Make you pay. Make you miserable, when we focus in on the games they play we don’t get to work on who we are. You get to decide if you’re going to let their actions affect you. Yes, this can be hard to start when they use everything they know about you against you, including court systems. When it comes to the children, fight for your life, and your children. Never ever react to them, work on your inner you, your happiness and your children do it through the right people, anything else let them have it and walk free. They don’t want your stuff. Nothing is ever enough for them. They just want to get at you.
I know it seems hard and daunting starting over. But are you truly happy now? No one wants to be in a refuge and lose everything they’ve built up, but you have a choice to stay stuck and unhappy or safely break free and create new dreams for you. It might seem like it’s Impossible but the sooner you break out the sooner you’re free to live how you want to be, take those steps and soon enough the impossible becomes possible.
Keep your energy focused on your goals and your dreams.
Stop wishing they would be the person you first met. That person did not exist. It did not start with you and it will not end with you. Leave them to be who they want to be. They can throw all they’ve got at you and yes it’s a learning curve but once you see you don’t have to let them affect you. That your too busy enjoying your new found freedom don’t focus on what they do. Focus on your new goals. Remember they only want to punish you. They can not do this if you don’t let it affect your emotional state. Working on you is key.
They do not care for you. They can not have empathy for you. They only want to control you. Whilst they are stopping you live how you want to with your own free will. They have that control. Once you stop reacting they no longer have that power and control over you.
A narcissist personality disorder is on a spectrum so stay safe. Keep working on you. Your hopes, your dreams and your goals and stay happy.