This is a question most of us ask ourselves at some point, as most narcissistic people go from one relationship to the next, often crossing over partners.
Nobody falls in love faster than a narcissist who needs somewhere to live or someone to prove to the outside world; there is nothing wrong with them.
Whether you were the one to leave or they left you, when you discover they’ve moved on so fast, while you’re left heartbroken and trying to heal yourself and move forward, it’s hard enough when a relationship with two loving people breaks down, yes some loving people also move on fast to heal the pain, often carrying the trauma from the previous relationship into the next.
Not only do you discover that often the narcissist has moved on fast, but they are also most likely rubbing it in your face, either by social media or their flying monkeys. This is why blocking and deleting them and their flying monkeys, then going no contact or grey rock if you have children with them is best to help you heal, and you will heal
They move from partner to partner to fill their own insecurities, and it could last a few months or a few years. They are merely using them until they can not use them anymore and then find another replacement. It did not start with you, and it will not end with you. They do not love what they use. To meet their own needs.
Remember how it was for you in the beginning. That’s all they are showing with the new partner, the idealisation stage, the love-bombing phase, the future faking, the mirroring, the hooking the new in. Some of you might want to warn the new this will not end well, as when you met the narcissist, and they were treating you so well—smearing the ex to you. What would you think if that ex had come trying to rescue you?
Why will they never change? The way they fill up their six human needs is precisely why they’ll never change.
The six human needs are.
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