Overcoming narcissist Abuse, by Elizabeth Shaw.
Some phrases narcissists say.
Triangulation is another one of their manipulative tactics. To make you feel guilty to Coercive Control you into doing something you wouldn’t normally do, to make you feel sorry for them and help them achieve something or get one over on someone who you believe has hurt the narcissist. Or to divide and conquer.
No one is safe from the manipulation and triangulation,
Yet more lies you may have heard from your narcissist.
“ my husband/ wife or partner doesn’t understand me.”
“My wife/ husband or partner will no longer have sex with me.”
“ I’m sure who I’m with is cheating on me.”
“ My ex is crazy.”
“ My ex abused me.”
“My ex is stalking me.”
“ My children have no respect for me.”
“My ex has turned the children against me.”
“My parents don’t understand me.”
“ My parents always prefers my sibling.”
“ My parents did nothing for me I was a mistake.”
“ My boss is horrible,”
“ The Person I’m training up at work is useless,”
“My neighbours have no respect.”
“ My friends always want me to help them out.”
“ My children never ring to see how I am,”
“My partner would rather play candy crush.”
“They don’t like me.”
“ They are envious of me.”
“ They talk about you behind your back.”
“ I don’t trust that friend of yours, they just use you.”
“ Your parents interfere too much in our lives, we should move.”
“ That friend of yours just gossips.”
“They borrowed a lot of money from me and never paid me back, Don’t talk to them they are extremely dishonest.”
“ The ex made up lies about me because they are bitter, now I’m not allowed to see my own children.”
“I was set up.”
It’s to make them look like they are a good honest person and to make the other look bad. To gain control, to get sympathy, to get emotional reactions.