The narcissists flying monkeys, the term comes from the film, wizard of oz, when the witch sent her flying monkeys to do her dirty work for her.
Flying monkeys are people who believe in the narcissists lies, believing the narcissist’s victim plays and often try to help the narcissist. This is also something we have to accept and overcome. If you’ve been around a narcissist, you’ve probably believed those lies yourself and tried to help them any way you can. We shouldn’t judge the narcissists flying monkeys, just like we once didn’t know any better. Neither do they. As hard as it is, there is nothing you can do other than stay away from those flying monkeys until they wake from their trance of the narcissist’s spell and hit the road of recovery just like we had to.
The narcissist uses people in manipulative ways to carry out the narcissist’s hidden agenda. The flying monkeys will not know the whole story, most of which they do know will be the lies the narcissist had told them. The flying monkeys are trying to do the right thing by the narcissist as they will feel sorry for them, they will believe they are doing a great thing for the narcissist, as the narcissist will have painted others in a bad light to the flying monkeys so the narcissist can gain sympathy. If not, it will be a self-defence mechanism as the flying monkeys live in fear of the narcissist and feel they ultimately have no choice but to do as the narcissist says, often fearing for their lives.
It is a narcissist manipulative abuse method, so the narcissist looks like any mistakes they’ve made, any trouble the narcissist has caused is nothing to do with them, and it’s all the other person’s fault. abuse by proxy.
The narcissist gets the flying monkeys to destroy others for them, so the narcissist isn’t held accountable.
Flying monkeys may have something to gain without realising the whole reality of the situation they are in.
Narcissistic people will love-bomb or idealise people in order to hook them in and gain their trust. Often also getting their insecurities and secrets out of them, to use against them in the future. They will find out who is important to you in order to work out ways of how to isolate you from them.
The flying monkeys can be the narcissist’s friends or family; the narcissist will pit people off against each other ever their own children, any family members, their friends or your friends and family, co-workers, even their children. Narcissists lack the empathy for others and do not care for who they use or the effects it’ll have on those they use. To them, it’ll always be someone else’s fault as to why the narcissist did what they did or said what they said.
Narcissists will not tell the whole story. They will twist truths. They will leave out key facts. To get others to listen to them, they will slowly plant seeds into peoples minds, allowing those seeds to grow. When the narcissist believes they have, they will get the flying monkey to act for them, with whatever the narcissist wants doing.
The more the flying monkey listens to the narcissist, the more seeds are planted into their minds from the narcissist, most of which are lies, although there might be some truths that have just been exaggerated.
The narcissist will always act to others that they are just concerned, for themselves or others, or that they are. “Only joking.” and the flying monkey just took them too seriously. With children, they often look up to parents for approval, so they will often but not always act on what the parents feed their minds.
Or the narcissist will play victim to others in order to gain sympathy and help from those around them, claiming others are “bitter, crazy, twisted.” unfortunately, until they wake from the trance narcissists put them in and get out, the flying monkeys believe them. They just don’t see it, even when their instinct is trying to tell you something is off.
Flying monkeys may help the narcissist spread gossip. Or create hostile environments for those the narcissist seeks to destroy.
The narcissist does not care for the dangerous situation they place the flying monkey or the target person in, so long as the narcissist achieves its goal of destroying others they feel have criticised them, or they think they can no longer control.
With the narcissist’s smear campaigns, the targets can become more isolated from the help and support they need. They can not see a way out, putting them into victim mindset and having no one around them believing them. At the same time, the narcissist gets to carry on destroying them, why it’s vital we get more awareness out, so the target knows they are not alone, that they can recover, and fight back with restraining orders and not reactions.
The narcissists flying monkeys can.
Intimidate, spread gossip, exclude, threaten, mock, physical harm the target. Some flying monkeys will know what’s happening but will not speak up out of fear that they will become the next target.
When people that know the narcissist change towards you, unfortunately, you have to remove them from your life also as the narcissist is playing puppet master and controlling their mind.
No contact or grey rock with the narcissist, providing them with no information so they can not use information against you, don’t defend yourself to the flying monkeys the narcissist has already got In their minds, instead hold your head high, knowing it’s all lies and a revenge campaign, and become your happy self again, join support groups, it helps to have understood from those who have unfortunately been there or going through, similar experiences, if the flying monkeys want answers don’t defend yourself, the narcissist will have warned of this just tell them. “ It’s none of my business what others say or do behind my back, but always listen to you’re own instinct, even when your unsure as to what it’s telling you.” Eventually, narcissists, lies will catch up with them, or people start to gossip about someone else.
Be prepared, stay aware, keep yourself safe, happy and busy, keep going. It gets easier.
The narcissists flying monkeys.
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