Being in a relationship with a narcissist, be it a partner, a family member, boss or a colleague. It is a highly stressful and hideous experience psychologically and physically. Narcissists are toxic. With their continued games leaving you uncertain of your own thoughts and feelings, from their silent treatments, gaslighting, the love-bombing, the discard, mental and possibly physical violence from some, is all extremely stressful on our minds and our body’s.
As humans, one of the worst stresses we can experience is within an interpersonal relationship. It’s more stressful than physical stress, and the emotional, mental abuse is a lot harder to see and overcome than a broken bone. However, if they’ve also been physically violent towards you, it leaves more scars for you to heal from within your own mind.
A long term relationship with a narcissist sends you into a path of confusion and loss of self. The narcissist is like a virus that infects every part of you, and narcissists are a parasite that come to feed off your willingness to help and support, your willingness to forgive. Narcissists steal your money, your home, your self-love, self-worth, self-trust and your own reality, plus so much more.
The narcissist wants to extract maximum energy from you, which then places you into the fight, flight, freeze or fawn mode.
You end up living under constant fear and stress, as you are constantly worrying about what the narcissist might do next, looking for ways to counteract it.
Your body then releases so many chemicals when in a relationship with a narcissist, causing that trauma bond, anxiety, adrenal fatigue, but also your physical health. You might end up with many health complications.
You become so physically and psychologically out of touch, Brain frog, confusion, lack of energy, slowly you lose touch of reality. Leaving you trapped and looking towards the narcissist for reality checks.
The narcissist will use this against you, constantly putting you down.
As you go to them for a reality check as your mind has been conditioned to think a certain way, it makes it very difficult to see what’s truly happening and to leave.
As you are sympathetic, have compassion, empathy towards others, you become stuck in the cycle of changing yourself, trying your best to help them. At the same time, the narcissist will devalue and discard you, then love bomb you again to devalue and discard you, leaving you to believe it’s your fault, trauma bonded and willing to take them back when they come for the hoover.
You may have been diagnosed with all sorts of illnesses and be taking all kinds of medications.
Be aware some of your health problems may well be down to the relationship you are in. Always seek professional medical advice.
Once you get out safely, you can take steps to overcome these and move forward to a much happier, healthier life.
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