Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse, by Elizabeth Shaw – Life Coach.
The vulnerable narcissist.
The narcissist personality disorder is on a spectrum, and they do have to have at least five traits to have the disorder, as it’s on a spectrum, they are individuals and have different characteristics on the surface, although the underlying characteristics that put them on the spectrum is the same they can have five, six, seven, eight or all nine, and depending on which they have and who they are around, depends on the personality they have and what manipulation tactics they use on those around them, they can also cross over with those underlying traits.
All those people on the disorder have Lack of empathy, Sense of Entitlement, Lack of emotion regulation, Feelings of superiority, Disorder in home life and professional life, Non-linear relationship between facts and feelings, Self-esteem issues characterised by up and down moods, and so many more. You can come across people who are narcissistic, yet they are not a narcissist, however, if they are abusive, exploit you and bring you down, if they don’t want to change, you can not help them. It’s a grand job changing ourselves, so you’ll be unable to change those who don’t see their actions as an issue.
The vulnerable narcissist is considered to be covert narcissists.
Vulnerable narcissistic traits.
A vulnerable narcissist has a victim mentality. They are always playing the victim, and always require a lot of sympathetic attention; they are often highly sensitive, they take offence to the slightest perceived criticism, and as narcissists do they make everything about them, if you’ve suffered a loss, theirs was far worse, if you had a bad day, they would bring it onto how theirs was far worse, offering you no emotional support and expecting you to forget about your needs and emotional support them.
Like all narcissist types, They are emotionally draining to be around. With the vulnerable, it’s, mostly because of how sensitive they are on top of being emotionally demanding. Their mission in life is to get the people around them to see them as the perfect creatures they are.
Vulnerable narcissists are often depressed. The life they live does not meet the fantasy of the life they feel entitled to.
The vulnerable narcissist has emotional ups and downs like those with Borderline Personality Disorder, and however, unlike people with other disorders that try to take their own lives or self-harm, Vulnerable narcissists are one of the few people to make threats of self-harm in order to get attention. They rarely follow through with it.
Vulnerable narcissists often appear to be calm, quiet, reserved people, and as they have very confusing self-esteem issues.
Their first line of narcissistic defences they will be, passive-aggressive and shutting people out optioning to use the silent treatment as their preferred manipulation method to punish others. Like many narcissists, they will always play the victim card because they will always see themselves as the victim.
They are also know is introverted, covert, fragile or closet narcissist, they still feel, and believe they are superior to most people they meet, yet they hate being in the spotlight. They often seek to try to attach themselves to what they see as special people, and they will find pity from others to get sympathy and maybe excessive generosity to receive the attention and admiration they need to boost their inner self-worth.
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