Overcoming narcissist abuse, by Elizabeth Shaw – Life Coach.
So you got into a relationship with an amazing Person who was simply perfect in every way.
Doing lots of thing you love together every single day.
You plan all of your future hopes and dreams with this person not knowing you’re situation is going to worsen, you trust this person implicitly, not aware that vampires truly exist.
Only real life vampire are actually called narcissist.
They con you with lies and manipulation, you understand no one is perfect yet you don’t fully get the depth of your new situation.
You don’t get the subtle callousness, or that your unsure of their loyalty to the relationship,
But they draw you in with their constant leadership.
You wonder about their lack of empathy within situations normal people would give sympathy.
Any concerns you raise with them. It’s twisted straight back onto you again, you’re 100% committed. Whilst they know to their ways you have submitted.
The arguments they cause have no reason, leaving you confused and trying harder to please them.
You try every method you can think of to discuss things and move the relationship forward, yet the narcissist manipulates everything leaving you hurt angry and again the narcissist has thwarted.
The narcissist will twist all tails told. So their reality is true to you and they stay in control
You hope that one day they will be that person you first met, if the narcissist fears they losing you they’ll give you a glimpse and hope, so you stay with them a little longer a decision you’ll soon regret.
Then suddenly out of the blue the narcissist changes to someone else you never knew, yes that’s right they are cheating on you. If you break up with them or they discard you it’s not over. You’ll be left wishing you caught gone and caught the first ferry alone at Dover.
They’re may have been violence before they left when you questioned them.
But then they disappear and because you’re so trauma bonded you fear you may never see them again.
You are angry and hurt left feeling empty and worthless, the narcissist will play more on this with threats towards you, leaving you scared afraid and with completely emptiness,
There hoping you’ll come screaming for answers, as that helps them show others they left you simply because of your crazy ness.
You start internet searching trying to figure out exactly what’s going on.
you come across narcissism and now you do know, then you question yourself and think you are wrong, they simply can not be, vampires don’t exist, yet this is the real twist.
They get back in touch with a lie of an apology. It’s was all your fault what they did to you. Or they need you to help them recover from all that they do. You take it in accept it all believing you can help change them and their own strange mental biology.
Yes you are a good person you see the best in every one . People can change, You can help them get back to who they used to be. Yet you don’t not understand it’s all a great con.
You see energy draining vampires do exist you’re now sleeping next to one. They may not draw blood, but they take everything you are and had until your mind is completely gone.
One day you finally see it’s not love you feel for the monster sleeping next to thee. It’s the trauma bond they created so strong by yourself you could simply no longer be.
The road to recovery has just begun, but please don’t worry the narcissist has not won.
You see you may be empty right now but you can build yourself back up. The narcissist has no empathy they will always have that empty cup.