Overcoming narcissist Abuse, by Elizabeth Shaw.
Recovering from the narcissist, building your self-trust back up.
After a relationship with a narcissist, you will more than likely be left full of self-doubt and fear, from that self-doubt within yourself “ was it me, was it them” it was them with all the manipulation and mind games, twisting all facts and problems straight onto you. fear of trusting yourselves to make the right choices. Self-doubt and fear towards the narcissist and others around you. It stops you doing things and achieve goals. You second guess yourself and don’t trust that you can do it and that you are capable. You can be indecisive even in the smallest choices in life. You may have a lot of insecurities, from body insecurities to financial situation or abilities to do things. You are not alone in this, plenty are going through this right now, others are starting to heal and others have moved onto a better future. so those for those who are starting others have recovered If another human can do it. It is possible and you can do it too, everyone’s situation and the journey is different and take different time scales, but they’re all recovering or recovered from a narcissist and understand what you are going through.
This is an important step Knowing, believing and trusting yourself again. You need to stop second guessing yourself, start to believe in you and that you are capable, listen to yourself and not those around you, if they’ve not been through it, they don’t fully understand, they might mean well, the advice might not be helpful. If you listen and think yes they’re right I need to try that, then yes listen to yourself do it and see if it works for you. your intuition might be shouting out at you. The one that’s probably told you to leave the narcissist lots of times, or it’s told you not to go back, and you didn’t listen. Don’t worry you’re not the only one not to listen. Start listening to it now though, it’s there for a reason. Your intuition only goes wrong when you don’t listen to it, talk yourself out of doing what it’s telling you to do. When you know your values and standards take action with 100% integrity. This will help you make the right choice and build your self-trust back up. You need to focus on yourself and building yourself back up. Remember always talk kindly to yourself. Dig deep and look for the positive in every situation.