Recovering from the narcissist, building your self-trust back up.
After a relationship with a narcissist, you will more than likely be left full of self-doubt and fear from that self-doubt within yourself “ Was it me, was it them.” It was them with all the manipulation and mind games, twisting all facts and problems straight onto you.
Fear of trusting yourselves to make the right choices. Self-doubt and fear towards the narcissist and others around you. It stops you from doing things and achieving goals. You second guess yourself and don’t trust that you can do it and that you are capable. You can be indecisive even in the smallest choices in life. You may have a lot of insecurities, from body insecurities to financial situations or abilities to do things. You are not alone in this. Plenty are going through this right now, others are starting to heal, and others have moved onto a better future. So for those who are beginning, others have recovered, If another human can do it. It is possible, and you can do it too. Everyone’s situation and the journey is different, and it takes different time scales. Still, they’re all recovering or recovered from a Narcissistic Abuse, and people do understand exactly what you have been through/are going through.
A crucial step in recovery is knowing, believing and trusting yourself again. You need to learn to stop second-guessing yourself, start to believe in yourself and that you are capable, listen to yourself and not those around you if they’ve not been through it, they don’t fully understand it, they might mean well, the advice might not be helpful. If you listen and think yes, they’re right. I need to try that, then yes, listen to yourself do it and see if it works for you.
Your intuition might be shouting out at you. The one that’s probably told you to leave the narcissist lots of times, or it’s told you not to go back, and you didn’t listen. Don’t worry. You’re not the only one not to listen to your instincts. Start listening to it now, though. It’s there for a reason. Your intuition only goes wrong when you don’t listen to it. Talk yourself out of doing what it’s telling you to do.
When you know your values and standards, take action with 100% integrity. This will help you make the right choice and build your self-trust back up. You need to focus on yourself and building yourself back up. Remember always talk kindly to yourself. Dig deep and look for the positive in every situation.
There’s no wrong way or right way to live your life. With good intentions, there’s only your way.
You can, and you will recover from this, listen to you’re instincts. They know what you’re on about even when you don’t.
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Hello, I’m Liz. I'm the slightly 🙄 dyslexic Blogger (So my grammar and punctuation aren't always the best.) who enjoys writing, and if I can overcome my fears and do it anyway, so can you. I have a YouTube channel which being dyslexic, my words are not always pronounced correctly, yet I still have some fantastic support from a fantastic community of survivors. If you want to do anything in life, half the battle is facing your fears and getting started. I am not a Doctor or a Councillor. I'm a mum and get the pleasure to raise five incredible boys. I'm a life coach. I’m a survivor of narcissistic abuse. I would like to raise as much awareness as possible about the Narcissist Personality Disorder, to give people more understanding of what they've been through, more knowledge so hopefully, people know the signs so don’t get involved in the first place, ways to get out safely, help with all the counter-parenting the narcissist throws in, help with whoever the narcissist is in your life, and most importantly recovery from narcissistic abuse, so you can move past it and have an incredible life that you do deserve.💜
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