Overcoming Narcissist Abuse, by Elizabeth Shaw – Life Coach.
The ageing narcissist.
Do the narcissist’s games ever stop?
Can they ever recover?
Narcissist seems to be invincible, running around, stealing hearts, minds, physical health, home, children and belongings.
not that anyone owns children, yet narcissistic people believe the children to be their property.
They just don’t seem to stop and never seem to be held accountable, just running around destroying people’s lives, then driving off into the sunset onto the next person they are about to destroy.
Nothing and no one seems to be able to stop them from destroying those around them, worse still they have no remorse for the things they do to those around them.
What is the fate of a narcissist?
You might be wondering, why you as a good person has had your life destroyed, whilst the narcissist swans on onto a new life. You might be asking, where is the karma?
Karma hits them, every second of every day, even if the narcissist walked away with everything and you’ve ended up with nothing, possessions aren’t happiness, they are an illusion, I’m not denying it nice to have nice things, but it’s more vital that you get your happiness from within, you are now free to do this, you will have nice things Again.
People with all the possessions in the world and people with none can be happy.
People with all the possessions in the world and people with none can be miserable.
A narcissist deep inside will always be miserable, always searching for external happiness, the narcissist does not have a true sense of self-worth.
If right now your left devastated and miserable, you can rise and you can climb out of it, then whether you become extremely wealthy or not. You’ll not need Material items, to be happy, you’ll be happy within yourself, you’ll be grateful for them.
Your relationship with your self is the most important thing.
as they are lacking in cognitive reflection skills, they just can no over the past to see any mistakes they’ve made to reflect or change their behaviour, it a disorder that is on a spectrum, they have a disorder and they can not change that and without the ability to reflect, they can not learn ways to manage the disorder as once they’ve created their own reality they will stick to that reality and blame all others, also they believe they are entitled to do as they please, as they also might suffer from cognitive distortion. This means they have categories of automatic thinking.
They are always right.
As the lack in empathy they will prioritise themselves over others, they will actively try and prove that their thoughts and actions are always correct and others are wrong, the black and white thinking, no middle ground. It’s either good or it’s bad and nothing is in between to them.
Always Blaming others.
Even if they intentionally inflict emotional distress onto others, cause harm to others, they will hold that person responsible for their actions towards them, the narcissist will make a reality up of why it’s always someone else fault.
There is a thing called the narcissists collapses, they might have pushed everyone away. The overt have grown old lost the looks and charm they relied upon for years, people around them have just seen through their toxic nature when all those around them just start to wake up. whatever it is one day that mask slips and their true selves are shown to all.
They seem to have a mental breakdown down, they become withdrawn, depressed and often isolated. They can no longer face the world as that would mean facing themselves.
From what I’ve read most narcissists, never get past the collapse and they spend the rest of their days alone and miserable, blaming all those around them.
As a narcissist grows older they lose their popularity.
A narcissist can not sub-stain long term healthy relationships.
As they age they lose the ability to charm so easily and can no longer bring in new people. They are often left with no support for their ageing health problems.
Those with substance abuse or other addictions and debts leave them constantly searching for more and destroying themselves in the process.
Some narcissists become more critical as they get older. As all narcissist play victim from Time to Time, some will switch to victim mode as they age.
No matter what a narcissist owns, or whoever they are with, they get bored of them, they need more, they’re always looking for something bigger and better.
A narcissist is so happy with new people or new items, yet it’s only ever temporary, Then they see someone else has got what they believe to be something better, belongings, money and privileges do not actually provide true happiness.
People who are abused by a narcissist who is determined to heal. Will heal and the narcissist will no longer be able to affect them.
A narcissist can not feel true love, not even for themselves. They can not feel you love them as they’re always looking for more. They don’t heal, they don’t heal themselves.
More and more people are healing, becoming stronger, taking control back of their own lives. Then they lose the fear of the narcissist. They calmly and clearly go to court and they win, narcissistic people need your fear to hurt you. The more you stand up to them and no longer fear them, they can no longer hurt you.
When a narcissist falls, they fall badly. It crushes a narcissist when they don’t win.
As narcissistic people age, they slowly get destroyed. They’ve left destruction all along with their lives. Narcissist age and lose their looks, they lose their ability to charm and intimidate others, they lose their power, they lose their jobs, all narcissist end up facing their tortured selves. That they never healed.
You can love yourself again, you can love others, others will love you, the best relationship you can have is the one with yourself, you can learn, you can grow, you have the strength and the power within you to create a new much happier, healthier life for you. You can and you will.
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