When you start to look into the world of narcissism, you may then come across the word sociopath and psychopath.
What’s the difference between these, and what are you genuinely dealing with?
A narcissist has an extremely high need for control and an extremely low level of empathy towards others. They live in a different reality. They have a high need to be better than all those around them, believe they are superior, they are extremely manipulative and controlling. Narcissists overvalue everything about themselves because they believe that they are better than all those around them, meaning they undervalue all those around them. They use all those around them and see others as an appliance to serve the narcissists needs.
Where we have a mobile phone and when it’s no longer working how we’d like, or a new model comes along, so we get a new one, then if the screen breaks on the new, we might pull out that old mobile and use it while the new gets fixed, once the screen is fixed the old goes back in the draw and we use the new phone again. Or when the screen is broken, we might try to use it until we can find a new one to buy.
This is how narcissistic people see people. They don’t genuinely care for your needs; it’s only ever about them. There needs. They’ll be nice if they believe a need of theirs will be met by doing so. They are irrational, irritable and believe all others are at fault, never themselves. They will use a false apology if they think they have something to gain by doing so. As to them, it’s not their fault. They will never be accountable. They’ll always twist it back onto you and something you did or did not do.
A sociopath, these are great plotters and schemers, always planning a new calculated plot to get their needs met. Again these believe they are above all others, and rules just don’t apply to them. They think they are above the law and can do exactly as they please. They will lie, scheme and cheat, with no care to those they hurt along the way as rules don’t apply to them. They have no guilt and no remorse whatsoever for anything they do. They can look remorseful if caught red-handed, as some are extremely intelligent. However, most are simply not interested in looking at what they’ve done wrong, just a way to get out of it.
A psychopath, these have no conscience, people are again just appliances to be used, no regard for others or the law. They have extremely bad tempers, are extremely irrational and have no patience. They have to dominate all those around them; these are predators that seek out those who they can use and abuse.
The similarities between these are
1. They all believe they are superior to all others.
2. They all lack empathy.
3. They do not care for others, and they just use others.
4. There isn’t much honesty.
5. Most will lie and cheat.
6. They are never accountable.
7. They carry no guilt and no remorse.
8. If you are around them for long enough, you will lose who you indeed are. You will be harmed, mentally and most often physically too.
9. They will manipulate for their advantage.
Researchers say all sociopaths and psychopaths are narcissists, but not all narcissists are sociopaths or psychopaths.
As much as we can not go around diagnosing our family members or exes, we can call a duck a duck, so if someone has the characteristics and treats you bad, you’re allowed to recognise their toxic pattern of behaviour and walk away.
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