Overcoming narcissist Abuse by Elizabeth Shaw.
The narcissists smirk.
Not every smirk comes from a toxic person, but most toxic people smirk.
The smirk is formed when they feel happiness and pleasure which is the smile and contempt when one side of the lip moves upwards like a half smile. Sometimes they have a glint in their eyes also.
It’s a micro expression which is an involuntary flash of what they feel on the inside showing for a moment On the outside. Through these microexpressions, people reveal what they are truly feeling. These are when toxic and not toxic people are feeling an emotion they’re trying not to go show. People can do it to deceive others, but also to protect themselves.
The smirk often forms at one side of the mouth as people feel contempt. The meaning of contempt is a despising or lack of respect, full disobedience or disrespect, with an intense dislike.
Someone pulling this face, it doesn’t mean they are toxic, some people smirk when they didn’t get what they want or they are upset.
Victims and survivors can also pull the smirk. Having contempt towards someone who violated you, doesn’t make you toxic. Some survivors can also have a happy contempt smile if they find out karma paid the narcissist a visit. Not because you were seeking revenge because you heard some karma hit them. No one would think less of anyone for being slightly pleased with that.
Resentment is anger directed towards someone who is of higher status or has the power to provoke you. Whilst you are in recovery you may feel resentment towards them as you still putting yourself below them. You still see them as someone who has power over you.
Anger is directed towards someone who’s of equal status as you, as you move through recovery you may lose the resentment and start going through the anger phase, with resentment coming back from time to time if they are still trying to provoke you. You’ll notice more anger towards them as you become more equal and realise they are not above you and do not have power or control over you.
Then the stage of anger for those when you realise just how harmful and hurtful they are and that they are below you, as they do not care for others.
Contempt. As narcissistic people believe they are superior to all others and believe they are entitled to control and take advantage of others.
Top seven examples of when narcissistic people smirk at you. The smirk can last for a moment or a few minutes. Sometimes you just get a flash that makes you feel uneasy.
Number one. When they are deceiving others and think they are getting away with it.
Number two. When they manage to get positive or negative reactions from you. When they provoke you.
Number three. When they see your pain, either pain your suffering from external sources, you’re telling them about something that happened to you and for a second you see that smirk and it makes you uncomfortable, or pain they have inflicted on you. They do get pleasure out of others suffering.
Number four. When they reject your thoughts, feelings or opinions.
Number five. If you set a boundaries and say no, you don’t give them what they want, yet you’re upset and they know you’re upset, they may smirk as they are pleased they upset you.
Number six. When they are blame shifting or projecting their own insecurities and faults onto others, then you start to try and discuss or rationalise or start to rage at them, human nature to defend yourself, they get pleasure and you might catch a smirk.
Number seven. When they are manipulating you or gaslighting you, when you’re then confused or defensive, you may at the moment notice a smirk. At the time not aware of what it’s about.
When the mask is on narcissists can over exaggerate their facial and body expression. (non-narcissist people can do this too.) when the mask slips they are extremely emotionless in the face.
A lot are very good at faking emotions and facial expressions, over time spent and getting to know them, you might start to notice a lack of facial expressions.
Often they believe their own lies so they can come across genuine and extremely convincing at first.
Pay close attention to people’s facial expressions when your telling them things or they are telling you.