Not every smirk comes from a toxic person, but most toxic people smirk.
The narcissist’s smirk or dupers delight is when the narcissist gets pleasure from manipulating someone, and for a moment, that pleasure is shown in the form of an involuntary flash of a smirk on the narcissist’s face.
The smirk is formed when a narcissist feels happiness and pleasure, which is the smile and contempt when one side of the lip moves upwards like a half-smile. Sometimes they have a glint in their eyes also.
It’s a microexpression which is an involuntary flash of what they feel on the inside, showing for a moment on the outside. Through these microexpressions, people reveal what they are truly feeling. These are when toxic and not toxic people are feeling an emotion they’re trying not to go show. People can do it to deceive others but also to protect themselves.
The smirk often forms at one side of the mouth as people feel contempt. The meaning of contempt is a despising or lack of respect, full disobedience or disrespect, with an intense dislike. As a narcissist believes they are superior, they think if others are not serving them, that they are worthless or beneath them. As a narcissist lacks in empathy, they have complete disregard for how their actions might have affected those around them.
Just because someone is pulling this face, it doesn’t mean they are toxic; some people smirk when they are disappointed or they are upset, embarrassed or shy.
Victims and survivors can also pull the smirk. Having contempt towards someone who violated you doesn’t make you a narcissist; it doesn’t make you toxic. Some survivors can also have a happy, contempt smile if they find out Karma visited the narcissist. Not because you were actively seeking revenge because you heard some karma hit them. No one would think less of anyone for being slightly pleased when Justice is served.
Resentment is anger directed towards someone who is of higher status or has the power to provoke you. While you are in recovery, you may feel resentment towards them as you could still putting yourself below them.
Anger is directed towards someone who’s of equal status as you; as you move through recovery, you may lose the resentment and start going through the anger phase, with resentment coming back from time to time if they are still trying to provoke you. You’ll notice more anger towards them as you begin to feel more equal and realise they are not above you and do not have power or control over you.
Then the stage of anger for those when you realise just how harmful and hurtful they are, that they’re not worthy of you, as they do not care for others.
Contempt. As narcissistic people believe they are superior to all others and believe they are entitled to control and take advantage of others.
Top seven examples of when narcissistic people smirk at you. The smirk can last for a moment or a few minutes. Sometimes you just get a flash that makes you feel uneasy.
Number one. When they are purposely deceiving others and think they are getting away with it.
Number two. When they manage to get positive or negative Reactions from you. When they provoke you.
“A narcissist will provoke you to get a reaction out of you so they can blame it all on you.”
Number three. When they see your pain, either pain your suffering from external sources, you’re telling them about something that happened to you, and for a second, you see that smirk. It makes you feel uncomfortable, yet you’re unsure why you feel uncomfortable or the pain they have inflicted on you. They do get pleasure out of others’ suffering.
Number four. When they reject your thoughts, feelings or opinions when they cause you to feel frustrated through their manipulative Conversations.
Number five. If you set boundaries and say no, you don’t give them what they want, yet you’re upset, and they know you’re upset. They may smirk as they are pleased they upset you.
Number six. When they are Blame-shifting or Projecting their own insecurities and faults onto others, then you start to try and discuss or rationalise or begin to rage at them, human nature to defend yourself, they get pleasure out of the Confusion they cause within others minds, and you might catch a smirk.
Number seven. When they are playing Mind games with you to manipulate you or Gaslighting you when you’re then confused or defensive, you may at the moment notice a smirk. At the time not aware of what it was about.
When their Admiration face is on, narcissists can over-exaggerate their facial and body expressions. (non-narcissist people can do this too.) when their Envious face appears, they can anger, rage or have an utterly emotionless face. This is when you could witness the narcissists Stare.
A lot of narcissists are very good at faking emotions and facial expressions.
Often narcissists believe their own Lies so that they can come across as genuine and extremely convincing at first.
Pay close attention to people’s facial expressions when you’re telling them things or they are telling you.
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The narcissist smirk.
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