If you’re feeling guilty after a narcissistic relationship or removing toxic people from your life.

Overcoming Narcissist Abuse, by Elizabeth Shaw.

If your feeling guilty that you can not help?

Feeling guilty that you’ve had to stop the kids contact with their own parent for safeguarding from mental abuse?

Feeling guilty because you’ve had to block and delete their friends and family?

Feeling guilty about walking away from a toxic person because all they do is bring you down?

Stop feeling guilty now, you’re a good person that’s done your best in extremely difficult, horrendous circumstances, it’s ok.

When you feel guilty about having to do something for your own happiness, it stops you from doing something practical and right to change it.

You end up finding and making excuses to stop you from doing what you need to do to actually take control and solve the problem.

Guilt can be a very destructive emotion.

You need to stop finding reasons for not cutting them out, I feel mean their mother, father, brother, sister third cousin twice removed never did me any harm, I’m going to look like a horrible person.

You need to have a different attitude, to any mistakes you’ve made, any reactions you made to the narcissist and you’re far from alone in reaction you need a different attitude to those misdeeds.

Children are practical, those who’ve not learnt about guilt yet, yes they need to be taught about it so they don’t grow to harm others. But you need to teach them and yourself to get practical about your guilt, for not listening to your instincts, for reacting, for going no contact, for anything and everything you feel guilty about within that relationship and after that relationship.

If you’ve made a mistake, and either you feel ashamed of it, your ex-narcissist had made you feel ashamed, or you feel like you will be judged by others and you can not handle that because you feel ashamed and guilty.

You go around protecting your ego, and your pride, for fear of being judged by others.

You need to know, and always remember, we all make mistakes, even if a narcissist will never admit to theirs and lay all the blame on your door, making you feel even worse, we are all human, it’s never a failure to make a mistake.

We all make mistakes, we have no choice in that, we have no way around not making a single mistake, or sometimes repeating that same mistake, life happens, making mistakes is all about learning, we can not learn unless we make mistakes along the way.

Thomas Edison, the great inventor’s quote who too 1000 attempts to invent the light bulb said.

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

You must never be afraid of making a mistake, just learn from it.

You are doing those things for freedom, freedom is being allowed to make mistakes, you made mistakes, you ignored your instinct, you tried to help, you’re not alone in this trying to help makes you a good person, but now you have got to let them go, lose the guilt, lose the ego and lose your pride, so you can learn from your mistakes, change direction in your life and do whatever is necessary for your freedom and a happier life.

We are allowed mistakes, we are allowed errors in judgment, we are allowed to take action to protect ourselves, we are allowed to become free, from all that guilt, hurt and pain we’ve been through.

Once you have a clear reality of what has actually happened don’t do it again. Or at least realise sooner what is happening.

You are not alone if you went back a few times, trauma bonding and not knowing reality, you are not alone if you went from one narcissistic relationship, then met another narcissist, that doesn’t mean you’re a bad person or you cause it, all that means is you didn’t learn all the facts of what they were, you didn’t truly know you, you were healing scars and deep wounds you didn’t know you even had, now you do you can heal them the right way, be aware and not make the same mistake.

Listen to your intuition, it’s a wonderful gift, even if you don’t know what it’s telling you.

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