Are you feeling drained, when your In a narcissistic relationship life is extremely draining both mentally and physically. We slowly stop taking care of our own needs, to take care of all the narcissists needs. Often leaving you with lots of unexplained illnesses, anxiety and depression,
If you get the help need, use the methods that work for you, you can and you will over come these.
Even after you’ve recovered, you might have some days, where you find your self feeling drained. Sometimes you’re adrenaline can kick in, pushing yourself into recovery, then suddenly you crash and burn, don’t worry you’ve not lost all you’ve learnt and gained, you just need to take a step back to relax and recharge then, you will be ready to go again.
Just like our phones, if you charge over night and wake upto 100%. Then slowly as the day passes by, it slowly loses its charge, unless you plug it back in. Just as phone batteries turn red to warn they need charge, so do your body’s, and minds, you just need to listen carefully to them.
Believe it or not, excersise is not only one of the best methods for mental and physical health, keeping you busy in your recovery journey and helping with the release of those endorphins, when you exercise it also release serotonin, which sends well being and happiness messages to your nervous system,
The hardest part of excersise is the build up to doing it, it’ll all about finding what you enjoy, be it long walks, running, going to the gym, playing a sport, tennis, football, hockey, it’s about finding one you enjoy. At any stage in your journey excersise is an excellent coping method, even if that means popping some music on and having a dance around, if your someone that hates doing house hold chores, and haven’t done so before, try it with your favourite music and a dance as you go.
My children and I often have a dance around on the bed, laughter and feel good emotions. I understand not everyone allows children to jump on the bed, nothing stopping you having a dance In the living room.
I actually picked my son up from school early for an appointment and skipped down the school drive, something I’ve wanted to do for a while, the fun and the laughter was brilliant. I’m still working up to doing it when the urge takes out fancy and other parents are around, so far I’ve stopped myself from doing so, for fear of looking crazy, I’m aiming to over come that fear within the next month.
Society today, has placed us all into these conform box’s, so when an adult dose something as simple as skip In public, with child or not, others label and judge, thinking what wrong with them? Are they made? Have they gone crazy. Making ourselves fear that judgment.
Reality is, we have freedom, if it’s not harming another, what’s wrong with someone laughing and skipping around the supermarket, or down the school drive, it’s a great feel good power play for yourselves and so simple, so what ever your thing is, don’t worry so long as it’s harming no one, and you’re happy that’s all that matters.
I personally don’t meditate, so I don’t know if it works, yet meditation can do for the mind what the gym dose for the body, if you don’t already give it a try, it’s all about finding exactly what works for you.
Connecting with others. In person is the best method. Yet even if your only way to do that is via social media. Connecting with others can re charge your inner battery.