Overcoming Narcissist Abuse, by Elizabeth Shaw.
Are you feeling drained, when you are In a narcissistic relationship life is extremely draining both mentally and physically. You slowly stop taking care of your own needs, your own wants, your own dreams and your own mind, to take care of all the narcissist’s needs and wants Often leaving you with lots of unexplained illnesses, anxiety and depression.
If you get the help you need, use the methods that work for you, you can and you will overcome this.
Even after you’ve recovered, you might have some days, where you find your self feeling drained. Sometimes your adrenaline can kick in, pushing yourself into recovery, then suddenly you crash and burn, don’t worry you’ve not lost all you’ve learnt and gained, you just need to take a step back to relax and recharge then, you will be ready to go again.
Just like our phones, if you charge overnight and wake up to 100%. Then slowly as the day passes by, it slowly loses its charge, unless you plug it back in. Just as phone batteries turn red to warn they need a charge, so do your body’s, and minds, you just need to listen carefully to them.
Believe it or not, exercise is not only one of the best methods for mental and physical health, keeping you busy in your recovery journey and helping with the release of those endorphins, when you exercise it also releases serotonin, which sends well being and happiness messages to your nervous system,
The hardest part of the exercise is the build up to doing it, it’ll all about finding what you enjoy, be it long walks, running, going to the gym, playing a sport, tennis, football, hockey, it’s about finding one you enjoy. At any stage in your journey, exercise is an excellent coping method, even if that means popping some music on and having a dance around, if your someone that hates doing household chores, and haven’t done so before, try it with your favourite music and dance as you go.
My children and I often have a dance around on the bed, laughter and feel good emotions. I understand not everyone allows children to jump on the bed, nothing stopping you having a dance In the living room.
I actually picked my son up from school early for an appointment and skipped down the school drive, something I’ve wanted to do for a while, the fun and the laughter was brilliant. I’m still working up to doing it when the urge takes out fancy and other parents are around, so far I’ve stopped myself from doing so, for fear of looking crazy, I’m aiming to overcome that fear within the next month.
Society today, has placed us all into these conform box’s, so when an adult does something as simple as skip In public, with a child or not, others label and judge, thinking what’s wrong with them? Making ourselves fear that judgment.
Reality is, we have freedom, if it’s not harming another, what’s wrong with someone laughing and skipping around the supermarket, or down the school drive, it’s a great feel-good power play for yourselves and so simple, so whatever your thing is, don’t worry so long as it’s harming no one, and you’re happy that’s all that matters.
I personally don’t meditate, so I don’t know if it works, yet meditation can do for the mind what the gym does for the body, if you don’t already give it a try, it’s all about finding exactly what works for you.
Take time out to rest, relax and recover, even if it’s just catching five minutes here or there.
Connecting with others. In person is the best method. Yet even if your only way to do that is via social media. Connecting with others can recharge your inner battery.
As long as your intentions are good there is no wrong way and no right way, only your way.
Leaning to take back control of your own mind and not feel judged by others will set you free.
Keep going you will get through this.