Overcoming narcissist Abuse, by Elizabeth Shaw.
Narcissist and the silent treat, this is mental abuse and is one of the narcissist favourite methods of manipulation, it’s to torture for your mind, it takes away your self-confidence, your self-esteem, leaves you in pain and leaves you powerless. The silent treatment is devastating,
A narcissist is all about control, it’s to tell you, you’re beneath them and you need to be punished until you conform,
The narcissist will never admit they fear anything, yet with the silent treatment, they deploy it as they fear, being wrong they fear openness, they fear to be truly vulnerable, they can act the victim, yet they fear to be the victim, so they need to make you feel like your the problem, so they blame it all on you. It’s to shame and manipulate you into conforming to their demands. The silent treatment is So you shut your mouth and conform.
The narcissist can give the silent treatment for hours, days, weeks or even months, normal people do use the silent treatment also, normal people, do it because they are genuinely Hurt, and unable to talk about why. need to figure some stuff out, then they’ll communicate with you again.
A narcissist does it to hurt you,
It causes you frustration and pain, silent treatment causes your brain to hurt the same way as physical pain, because you are wired to be part of a group, to be around others. Silent treatment gives you emotional pain, you start blaming ourselves, you start looking for reasons and the narcissist will come back and use them reasons, so they gain more control as you change whatever they want you to, so you avoid any further silent treatment, of course a narcissist, will not stop, they’ll give you the silent treatment again. The silent treatment causes you to feel annoyed and get angry, so they can blame you.
Don’t play the game with them anymore, as they take great delight in your reactions to the silent treatment.
You can not say anything to change it the narcissist enjoys it.
You can not change a narcissist, you tried to be normal and healthy, within the relationship, you can not give an unhealthy person, Normal healthy values, they don’t get it. You can not say or do anything to change them. It’s all one big game to them,
You often end up, being the one apologising to the narcissist.
A narcissist is limited people, they can not compromise, they can not see someone else’s point of view, they don’t have the empathy.
Its time to work on you, you don’t need to comply or join in with the narcissist games, they try to turn you into someone you’re not.
you’re in charge of your peace and calm, it is given to you by you. You can find your inner happiness again.
Grey rock if you’ve got children, keep conversation to a minimum and only about the children. no contact if not.