A narcissist and the silent treatments.
The narcissist’s silent treatment is psychological, emotional, ￼￼mental abuse and is one of the narcissists favourite methods of manipulation. It’s to torture your mind, as it slowly takes away your self-confidence, your self-esteem, leaves you in pain and leaves you feeling powerless. The silent treatment is devastating,
A narcissist is all about control. Their silent treatment is their way of telling you. They think you’re beneath them, and you need to be punished until you conform to their ways.
The narcissist will never admit they fear anything. Yet, with their silent treatment, they deploy it as they fear to be in the wrong as they fear openness, they fear to be truly vulnerable, they fear exposure, they can act the victim, yet they fear to be the victim, so they need to make you feel like you are the problem, so they blame it all on you. Their silence is to shame and manipulate you into conforming to their demands. The silent treatment is, so you stop doing the things you enjoy doing and start doing what the narcissists want you to do, for fear of silence if you don’t do as they please, narcissists want you to conform to their demands. You are being manipulated into doing what they want, and forgetting who you are.
The narcissist can give the silent treatment for hours, days, weeks or even months. Genuine people do use the silent treatment. Also, genuine people, do it because they are genuinely hurt and unable to talk about why. Need to figure some stuff out, then they’ll communicate with you again. A narcissist doesn’t want to communicate with you. They want to control you.
A narcissist uses silence to hurt you.
Their silent treatment is used to cause you feeling of frustration and pain. The silent treatment causes your brain to hurt the same way as physical pain because you are wired to be part of a group, to be around others. The silent treatment gives you emotional distress, you start blaming yourself, you start looking for reasons as to what you did, and the narcissist will come back and use those very reasons against you. Hence, they gain more control over you as you change to whatever they want you to be. Therefore, you avoid any further silent treatment. Of course, a narcissist will not stop. They’ll give you the silent treatment again. The silent treatment causes you to feel hurt, confused, frustrated, annoyed, get angry, possibly react so that the narcissist can blame you for your reactions to escape the consequences of their actions.
What can you do?
Stop playing, recognise their silence for what it is. Don’t play the game with them anymore, as they take great delight in your reactions to their silent treatment.
You can not say anything to change it. It’s a game of control to a narcissist, and many enjoy it.
You can not change a narcissist. You tried to help, be reasonable. Within the relationship, you can not give an unhealthy person, Normal healthy values. They don’t get it. You can not say or do anything to change them. It’s all one big game to them.
You often end up being the one apologising to the narcissist.
A narcissist is limited. They are not able to compromise unless they can use that compromise￼ to exploit another, they can not see someone else’s point of view, they don’t want to see someone else point of view, they lack the empathy to care.
It’s time to work on you. You don’t need to comply or join in with the narcissist games. They try to turn you into someone you’re not.
You’re in charge of your peace and calm, and it is given to you by you. You can find your inner happiness again.
The narcissist’s silent treatment.
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