Why A Narcissist Will Not Give You Closure.

No closure.

They give no closure, most likely because they know they stay longer within your mind, they remain stuck there and harder for us to move out, without closure most people will still search for answers, as most people want to know why? And then we want to know how?

Most likely the narcissist has learned from the exes, just how much it helps their smear campaigns against you as you search for answers, also that people chase them to get those answers as most people want to know why so they are gaining attention by not giving you answers. The fact they don’t see themselves as the problem, they lack in object consistency, meaning they can walk away and simply not care. The only thing they care for is revenge as in their reality. It’s all your fault.

It’s just a further manipulation tactic to keep you hooked. They can not let someone get the better of them, so they seek out smear campaigns and further ways to hurt you. To keep you locked into their world.

They know the impact they left on you is deep. You want answers, and because you’re not getting them, you want and need to know what’s happening, even more, some of us then end up messaging and ringing to get closure, for the narcissist further to use this in their smear campaign against you, telling those who will listen, you’re stalking them.

Perhaps they owe you money, another manipulation tactic, In the hope you ask them for it they’ll never give it to you, just provide excuses after excuses to keep you hanging on.

Or they’ll then give you the “what money?” Just to confuse and anger you more.

Then it will be belongings they leave in your home. They issue excuses after excuses again to keep you waiting, or they’ll keep yours, the ones you most value, again they will keep excuses going of why they will not return them.

They also might want to keep you attached so when they hoover, and you’ve not fully let it go.

They may turn up where you are, so you act unhinged, then when you react, this helps them with there smear campaign against you and how crazy you are.

They may disappear for a while, to leave you wondering, what’s happened to them?

All tactics to keep you thinking about them.

Learning about the disorder will give you all the closure you need for yourself, while also creating a new life for you, new dreams and new routines, new friendships and new hobbies, to keep your mind occupied on your life more and more now and less on them, as you are worth so much more.

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2 thoughts on “Why A Narcissist Will Not Give You Closure.

  1. I realise now when.we are together I see less of him and it leaves wanting to see more of him, when we break up he.is everywhere I am so.that makes me feel he wants me, we get back together and the cycle begins I just got it!!!!! I’m.finished with it now I.realise thank you

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