NLP technique to over come anxiety. Timeline process,
This is to over come anxiety of any future events you have coming up.
So if you get anxiety, over that ex narcissist, this one I’m going to use the example of, you’ve got to see them face to face to when the pick up the children. Or you’ve got the children’s birthday party and they’ll be there.
If your feeling stressed, because you’re dwelling on something you don’t want to do in the future, when you focus on the dread, your subconscious mind gives you anxiety,
You get these because of your internal thought process, so you need to change your perspective.
So imagine your subconscious mind, has a time line of your past, present and future, with a narcissist ex, you may not have to imagine, it might already be in your conscious mind.
Close your eyes and put that time lime from up to down, left to right, diagonal, whatever suits you, with your past at the start, present in the middle and future at the end.
Then where is your past, point in the direction that your past is. So if you put that line, left to right, point to the left if your past is on the left,
Then which direction is your future then with your other hand point to the future, give your time line a colour.
Once you’ve found your time line open your eyes, then think of that up and coming event that’s stressing your out.
Close your eyes and imaging this future event playing out, when do you feel in your body, that nervous, anxiety or stress,
Is you tummy, your head, your shoulders.
Rate 1 to 10 how anxious you feel.
Then say the number out loud,
Then open your eyes and take a long deep breath in,
Note what number it was, where The anxiety was in your body, you’re feeling the way you do, because of possible, negative outcomes that may happen.
Close your eyes again and ask yourself what could benefit you, what positive things, could come from this upcoming situation.
Then tell yourself those, no matter how hard, dig deep and find them,
Example. I will have more opportunity to practice grey rock, minimalist interaction, until I nail it and walk away with my head held high, feeling proud of myself. Imagine it’ll go better than you ever thought, it will help you observe who the truly are.
Whilst your eyes are still closed, take another deep breath, exhale slowly, then visual, the events of what going to happen, working in your favour.
Visual your timeline, then float above it, looking down that timeline, turn and float into your future, until the event your thinking about, then float past the event, then land back down in the future when the events of, all went well, you’re safe and happy, the narcissist words didn’t affect you and events went even better than you first imagined.
Take another deep breath in, look back at your past, notice your anxiety has gone.
Look at what you did, how well it went, how you managed to reaction, how much better you feel, then whilst thinking that, bring yourself back to the present moment.
Keep doing that, until your subconscious mind has, changed how your thinking to a positive outcome.
Please remember this is just for advice. Give it a try, nothing to lose.
Just keep going until you find the method that works for you.