Recovery Help From Anxiety After Narcissistic Abuse.

Anxiety, panic attacks and stress.

One of the first things you need to do to recover from anxiety and stress is to understand why you suffer from it, finding the root cause of your emotional triggers when you don’t understand, your mind will make up so many different reasons that are not the truth as to what it could be.

Learn to use your triggers as motivation to change.

Most often, after any kind of a relationship with a narcissist, you’ll have anxiety that you didn’t have before, as your body has done this subconsciously by going into survival mode, flight, fight, freeze or fawn to protect you from harm. Your mind has now been programmed to defend yourself. Looking into what the narcissist did will help you understand more that it’s not you, that you can reprogram your mindset and recover. Knowing the things they said to manipulate you will help you understand it wasn’t you, losing the self-blame and self-doubts.

Finding the actual cause will help you recover. If that’s the noise of cars pulling up, because you used to fear them coming home, or the sound of the phone ringing, you need to remind yourself when you feel the panic attack or anxiety coming on, that you are safe now, it’s not them, this will help you overcome your stress. When you get stressed, you are not dealing with the anxiety problem, and you are dealing with the consequences of the stress.

Instead of dealing with the pressure dealing with the anxiety, you need to find the root cause. Ask yourself. “Is it one thing that happened within the relationship that sets off your stress and anxiety, or is it a combination of things.” When you work on what they are, you can start dealing with the problem that causes you to get stressed and anxious.

After a narcissistic relationship, you’re left with so many feelings, so many emotions, you may feel confused and lost, yet you don’t always understand why. Often blaming yourself, thinking about, what could I have done better? What could I have done differently? I did everything? What went wrong? Tell yourself. “ the problem wasn’t you.”

You’ll never get an answer from the narcissist. All you can do is look into how and why they do things, then understand on your own term why it didn’t work.

When you look into how narcissists manipulate your mind when you see others out there have suffered the same and have recovered, you’ll understand, and you think. “Oh, how I feel is normal, it’s not me, how I responded was normal. I’m not alone in this.”

Now is the time to work out what your anxiety trigger is, real or imaginary. You need to work out what triggers it. When you know the trigger, you can be self-aware of when they are about to happen so that you can overcome them.

What triggers anxiety.

From your senses, what you hear, see, touch, smell, then you associate to something in your past that caused you pain.

To help work it out, write down, what happened, how you felt if it’s a knock at the door, a song, a car, the phone.

From the physical source, you get the emotional response that triggers your anxiety,

Look back at the relationship and find what patterns led you to feel anxiety, find what triggers it now, ask yourself what the lead-up, what the situation was?

Some self-help ways when you know anxiety is creeping in,

1. Concentrate on your breathing, long deep breaths in and out.

2. Get a good photo on your screen saver that makes you smile, focus on it, if your mind drifts bring it back the photo, think what’s good about it, what makes you happy, remember that good moment,

3. Close your eyes, think of positive things,

4. Get an anchor, though, something that makes you happy, focus on that,

5. Tell yourself. “I am safe now, over and over, until you feel the anxiety subsiding, ”

6. Ask yourself. “Is it really happening, or is it the past,” if it’s the past, tell yourself, “ I am safe. “

Once you know your triggers, what events or circumstances lead to the anxiety, then know your anchors, put in place your coping strategies. At first, you’ll have to recognise these consciously. The more you do it, the more it will come. Naturally, your mindset will change, and you’ll be doing them automatically. It will become second nature to you. Your coping strategies will automatically kick in.

We all have a little anxiety in us. That’s healthy. It’s when it turns extreme because of the past relationship. You can overcome this.

Keep going, stay strong and keep working on yourself. It will get easier.

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Elizabeth Shaw is not a Doctor or a therapist. She is a mother of five, a blogger, a survivor of narcissistic abuse, and a life coach, She always recommends you get the support you feel comfortable and happy with. Finding the right support for you. Elizabeth has partnered with BetterHelp (Sponsored.) where you will be matched with a licensed councillor, who specialises in recovery from this kind of abuse.

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