Overcoming narcissist Abuse, by Elizabeth Shaw.
Help re-find your focus after a narcissist relationship.
Your mind needs to be refocused on what you want, building your vision, your dreams, your hopes, picturing what you want out of your life. Moving forwards and driving yourself to achieve it.
Your heart, understand your values, what you will and will not accept from those around you, learning to not only take note of your intuition, but starting to listen to it, even if your heads telling you otherwise, listen to your intuition, you can make your own mind repaint things to what you want to see, your intuition will tell you the truth.
You can and you will achieve what you want from life, there will always be bumps along the way, it’s about connecting your intuition with your mind then making the right choices for you, these bumps are often to teach us things, listen to the lesson, learn from it and move forwards don’t look back at past mistakes with resentment. When you reach the place where you’ve learnt from it, when you look back on the lesson learnt you’ll thankful for them, as without that lesson you wouldn’t be where you are today.
You need your heart to be able to adapt through the good and the bad, it’s ok for it to hurt sometimes just find your joy again within your life
As George Krueger and Mary-Lynn Foster wrote, “It’s feeling joyful about creating joy. It’s about adding value in the lives of others while creating value in your life. It’s a win-win. You must find your passion before finding your purpose.
Your passion is for you and you need to find your true passion first, then you can move forward with your purpose and give your purpose to others. Your passion is the thing that will make and keep you happy when you turn that into a purpose that serves and helps others. It is a win-win.
If your passion is being a nurse, you help others.
If your passion is being a teacher, you help others
If it’s working on tills, you help others.
Driving a bus, you help others,
Hgv driver, you deliver and help others.
Hairdresser, you help others.
So go out there and find your passion for you,
If you’re taken out of your comfort zone, the environment in which you feel safe, losing your values, which is what slowly happened with the narcissist, you lose who you are, you slowly decline in who you truly are. When you have your values and you are in your comfort zone, you will thrive.
As you learnt with the narcissist, you can not rely on others to make you happy, when you find your values, your hopes, your dreams. your passion and your purpose for you, you will thrive again.
You can change and you will, you’ve done it before and you can do it again, keep going.
Your own individual energy resources will help you with this, it’s ok to have low, medium or high energy levels, we are all individuals, we are all unique to work within our boundaries of what suits us best.
Please remember this is just for advice, take from it, what will help you recover and achieve where you want to be. As we are all different from each other. Remember you can and will heal for a better and happier life.