One of the most important steps to recovery after being in a relationship with a narcissist is who are you listening to?
First, you need to start listening to your own intuition. That’s your internal sat nav telling you what you need to do.
Then listen to those who have been there and come out the other side. They understand you and everything that’s happened to you. They know how you feel as they too have felt that way, but only take what applies to you. Getting that validation of your thoughts and feelings when you’ve been left full of so many doubts and questions, truly helps with recovery. Although narcissists are very similar, as are our experiences, everyone’s situation is slightly different. What works for someone may not work as well for another. Just like some narcissistic people are extremely dangerous, so you have to move miles away and have no contact with them for the children. Some can just manage parallel parenting. It’s not easy. Don’t listen to people who haven’t been there about parenting as they will not understand.
Advice from people who understand narcissism, those who know what the trauma bond is.
Friends and family may mean well, but if they have not been through it, they don’t understand enough to help you in the right way.
Learn what you need to know. Take a break from it if you need to, grieve, scream, shout, or cry. Dance in the rain, go for a run, put some music on, and hug your kids. Read a good book, whatever helps you get through. There’s always room to grow and always something new to learn. It’s about you and your journey and what makes you happy.
Start changing your mindset to a positive one.
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Hello, I’m Liz. I'm the slightly 🙄 dyslexic Blogger (So my grammar and punctuation aren't always the best.) who enjoys writing, and if I can overcome my fears and do it anyway, so can you. I have a YouTube channel which being dyslexic, my words are not always pronounced correctly, yet I still have some fantastic support from a fantastic community of survivors. If you want to do anything in life, half the battle is facing your fears and getting started. I am not a Doctor or a Councillor. I'm a mum and get the pleasure to raise five incredible boys. I'm a life coach. I’m a survivor of narcissistic abuse. I would like to raise as much awareness as possible about the Narcissist Personality Disorder, to give people more understanding of what they've been through, more knowledge so hopefully, people know the signs so don’t get involved in the first place, ways to get out safely, help with all the counter-parenting the narcissist throws in, help with whoever the narcissist is in your life, and most importantly recovery from narcissistic abuse, so you can move past it and have an incredible life that you do deserve.💜
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