What are narcissists scared of?
We are human, so we all have our fears, including those with the disorder a narcissist is afraid of a few things. The narcissistic personality disorder is on a spectrum, so it varies from each one how severe their fears are.
Fears of a narcissist.
When they get laughed at, they can not stand it when people make fun of them, when people laugh at them they take it as criticism, they may laugh at others for tripping over as they have no empathy for others, they enjoy the discomfort others feel as they view people as objects. They can not handle others laughing at them, as they believe they are perfect and above all others.
Abandonment and rejection. Their fear of abandonment is why if they haven’t got someone lined up as your replacement, they will threaten, manipulate and fly into rages if you question the relationship. They will idealise you, to keep you of they haven’t got another source of supply. They think you’re rejecting the false self they’ve spent so much time putting together. Their false sense cannot survive on its own, and it actually depends on using and exploiting other people. They will fight not to be alone because they can not stand to be around their own emptiness, they will destroy you they have to just to feel better within themselves.
They are extremely sensitive, but that sensitivity is only for themselves to feel and see about themselves.
They hate been disrespected.
Ignored. They can not stand being ignored. This is why they usually have back up people around. So they can get what they need from others while trying to destroy you because you disrespected them by ignoring them.
They would rather be hated than ignored, they thrive of attention, to give a narcissist no attention is to suffocate them.
Most of this boils down to their false self and a deep fear of exposure. To avoid this, they use gaslighting. Manipulation, lies, intimidation, blame shifting and violence, they do not want to be held accountable for their own actions. They love to project their own imperfections onto you.
They make it so you live in a world of smoke and mirrors and you no longer know what is real and what isn’t.
Growing old and death. They have a deep fear of the loss of youth. Somatic narcissists fears this the most.
They fear death, they all fear death as this is the complete loss of the narcissist self.
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