Overcoming Narcissist Abuse, by Elizabeth Shaw.
A narcissist is terrified of a few things. The narcissistic personality disorder is on a spectrum so it varies from each one how severe their fears are.
They can not stand it when people make fun of them, when people laugh at them they take it as criticism, they may laugh at others for tripping over, they can not handle others laughing at them. They have no empathy for others. They love the discomfort they make others feel as they view others as objects.
Abandonment and rejection, that’s why if they haven’t got someone lined up as your replacement, they will threaten, manipulate and fly into rages if you question the relationship. They will love bomb you, they think you’re rejecting the false self they’ve spent so much time putting together. Their false sense cannot survive on its own and it actually dependent on using other people. They will fight to not be alone because they can not stand to be around their own emptiness, they will destroy you they have to just to feel better within themselves.
They are extremely sensitive but that sensitivity is only for themselves to feel and see about themselves.
They hate been disrespected.
They can not stand being ignored. This is why they usually have back up people around. So they can get what they need from others. Whilst trying to destroy you because you disrespected them by ignoring them.
They would rather be hated than ignored.
Most of these boil down to their false self and a deep fear of exposure. To avoid this they use gas lighting. Manipulation, lies and violence, they do not want to be held accountable for their own actions. They love to project their own imperfections onto you.
They make it so you live in a world of smoke and mirrors and you no longer know what is real and what isn’t.
They have a deep fear of the loss of youth, somatic narcissist fear this the most.
They fear death, they all fear death as this is the complete loss of the narcissist self.