Overcoming narcissist Abuse, by Elizabeth Shaw.
Some signs you are dealing with a narcissist, now a lot of people can and will have one of the traits or two. Some are human nature, doesn’t mean they are a true narcissist, they could just be a negative person or very confident within themselves. Listen to the actions of those around you, it’s not what they say, it’s what they do.
They Have an over exaggerated sense of self-importance
They Have a real sense of entitlement and require constant, excessive admiration.
They need, want and Expect to be recognized as superior even without achievements to back it up.
They will Exaggerate and lie about any achievements or talents.
They have their own fantasies about success, power, beauty or the perfect mate
They think and believe that they are superior and can only be around people equally special people.
They take over conversations making it all about them, and belittle or look down on people they think are not as good as themselves. They will also belittle people who are doing better than them and find a way of how lucky they are, it’s nothing they did they must have received an inheritance to get that new car etc.
They Expect special favours from those around them and unquestioning compliance with their expectations. They will rarely do any favours in return.
They are more than happy to Take advantage of others to get what they want.
They have a great inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others. Will do very little or nothing at all to help those around them, unless they can get something greater from it.
They are extremely envious of others and believe others envy them.
They behave in an arrogant manner, They seem conceited, boastful and pretentious. They really want and believe they are entitled to the best, they even expect and
Insist on having the best of everything, for example. the best clothes, for lesser narcissistic, the best car for mid-range and the best house holidays and everything for the greater narcissist.
They have great trouble handling any form of criticism.
They will become very impatient or angry when they don’t receive special treatment.
They have significant interpersonal problems and easily feel slighted.
They will react with rage or contempt and try to belittle the other person to make themselves appear superior.
They have great difficulty regulating their emotions and their own behaviour.
They have major problems dealing with stress and adapting to change, they may not show this to others.
They can feel depressed and moody because they fall short of their own sense of perfection
They insecurity, shame, vulnerability and humiliation, these are often hidden within themselves,
Lie about anything and everything often believing their own lies.
Project all their feelings onto you.
Be violent especially when caught out on a lie, they will twist and turn your words in any way possible.
Look into their eyes when you question a minor thing they really do change.
Talk badly about you to everyone around them, often making up stories of what you are doing to them, when in fact they are doing it to you.
Have no financial responsibility, often taking as much money from you as they can.
Try to move in with you real fast.
Try to get you to move away from your family and friends as they know. Your friends will see a change in you, they know your family and friends will spot their true self before they’ve fully got you hooked.