Jealousy is a common emotion. Most people have experienced feelings of jealousy or envy at some point in their lives. It’s natural to want things that others have or to feel envious of their achievements. However, for healthy individuals, jealousy and envy are fleeting emotions that they can recognise and move past. They might say things like, “I’m so jealous I’d love to visit there,” or “I’d love to have that,” expressing their desires while still being happy for the other person.
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But for narcissists, jealousy and envy take on a whole new level. A narcissist has little to no self-esteem and feels extremely jealous of everything around them. They believe that everyone around them has something they don’t, and they want it, no matter what they already have. This is because they lack inner happiness and believe that acquiring more things or attention from others will fill the void within them. This jealousy can extend to their own children, where they may feel envious if their children receive more attention or recognition because it takes away from the attention that the narcissist feels they deserve.
Most people deal with feelings of jealousy internally, recognising that they are normal but feeling embarrassed by them. However, a narcissist will openly express their jealousy and often try to bring others down by making negative comments or undermining their achievements.
The jealousy and envy felt by a narcissist can lead them to try to sabotage anything and anyone around them that they perceive as doing or achieving more than them. They believe that everything is a competition and feel it’s unfair for others to have something they don’t have. Their jealousy triggers feelings of inadequacy and self-hatred, leading to a need to pull attention back onto themselves in any way possible. They will use smear campaigns to destroy others and control the people around them in an attempt to elevate themselves.
Narcissists use smear campaigns to destroy others so that people don’t help the person the narcissist is envious of. They often spread lies or twisted truths to ruin a person’s reputation and direct attention back onto themselves. This can lead to destructive behaviour such as stealing, ruining, or destroying others’ possessions. Their attempts to destroy others and elevate themselves come from a deep-seated need to overcome their inner insecurities and feelings of shame. Their jealousy triggers a defensive scenario in their minds, leading to blame-shifting and projecting their own issues onto others.
It’s important to recognise that you cannot help a narcissist by trying to prove them wrong or defend yourself against their accusations. Their internal makeup is deeply ingrained, and there is nothing you can do to change it. Most often, trying to help them or defend yourself will only be turned against you, as the narcissist is unwilling or unable to believe anything that doesn’t align with their own perceptions.
One potential cure for jealousy is self-improvement, but narcissists are not capable of this as they do not see themselves as the problem. Being around a narcissistic person can be detrimental to your own well-being, as their negativity can rub off on you. It’s important to recognise that jealousy and envy are natural emotions, but it’s how you respond to them that matters. Use these feelings to recognise what you want for yourself and take steps to achieve it, rather than letting it consume you.
In conclusion, jealousy and envy are natural human emotions that everyone experiences at some point in their lives. However, for a narcissist, jealousy and envy take on a destructive and manipulative nature. It’s important to recognise these emotions in yourself and use them to work towards your own goals rather than letting them consume you. Remember that with good intentions, there is no wrong or right way to live your life, and everyone is worthy of achieving their own desires.
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