Narcissists are inherently predisposed to argumentative and confrontational behaviour. This trait is often rooted in their need for dominance and control over others, as well as their constant desire for attention and validation. In this article, we will delve into the psychology behind narcissistic behaviour and explore the various reasons why they like to engage in arguments.
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One of the primary reasons why narcissists like to argue is their need for dominance and control. Narcissists have an overwhelming desire to feel superior to others, and engaging in arguments allows them to assert their authority and assert their power over the people around them. By creating conflict and tension, narcissists are able to manipulate and control others, thus reaffirming their sense of superiority and control.
Furthermore, narcissists often use arguments as a means to deflect attention onto or away from themselves. By initiating arguments and placing blame on others, narcissists are able to avoid taking responsibility for their own actions and behaviour. This allows them to maintain a false sense of self-righteousness and avoid scrutiny or criticism from others.
Arguing also allows narcissists to gain a reaction from others, which they can then use to manipulate and blame the other person. By provoking a reaction, narcissists are able to reaffirm their own sense of importance and relevance, as well as feed their insatiable ego. This reaction serves as validation that they still matter to the other person, thus boosting their fragile sense of self-worth.
In addition, engaging in arguments allows narcissists to end conversations that are not going their way. When faced with a situation that challenges their ego or self-image, narcissists often resort to arguments as a means of avoiding confrontation or having to address their own shortcomings. Instead of facing the discomfort of being wrong or vulnerable, they opt to end the conversation by creating conflict and tension.
Arguing also provides narcissists with an excuse to walk off, sulking and fall silent, which in turn allows them to seek out new sources of validation and attention. This behaviour is often indicative of their tendency to seek out new “supply” in the form of admiration and attention from others. By creating conflict and tension, narcissists can justify spending time with new sources of validation and attention, thus reinforcing their sense of self-importance and desirability.
Furthermore, narcissists use arguments as a tool for gaslighting, a form of psychological manipulation that involves distorting the truth and causing the other person to question their own reality. By engaging in arguments and shifting blame onto the other person, narcissists are able to undermine the other person’s confidence and make them doubt their own perceptions and experiences. This allows narcissists to maintain control over the narrative and avoid being held accountable for their actions.
Arguing also serves as a means for narcissists to shift the blame onto others, thus absolving themselves of any responsibility. By creating conflict and tension, narcissists are able to deflect attention away from their own behaviour and instead place the blame on others. This allows them to avoid taking accountability for their actions and manipulate others into feeling guilty or responsible for the problems in the relationship.
Furthermore, narcissists thrive on creating conflict, drama, and chaos in their relationships. Engaging in arguments allows them to maintain a sense of excitement and stimulation, as well as exert their control over the people around them. By creating tension and discord, narcissists are able to keep their partners on edge and in a constant state of emotional turmoil, thus reinforcing their own sense of power and control.
Additionally, arguments provide narcissists with an opportunity to devalue and discard their partners. By creating conflict and tension, narcissists are able to undermine the other person’s self-worth and make them feel insignificant and unworthy. This behaviour allows narcissists to maintain their sense of superiority and dominance, as well as justify their decision to discard or abandon the other person.
Ultimately, narcissists derive pleasure from engaging in arguments due to the frustration and chaos it causes. By creating conflict and tension, narcissists are able to maintain power and control over others, as well as feed their insatiable ego and desire for validation and attention. Understanding the underlying motivations behind narcissistic behaviour can help individuals recognise and address these toxic patterns in their relationships.
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