Things happen in life to break you, use that pain to make you, then afterwards you’ll be wiser and stronger.
When you turn inwards towards yourself and loving yourself, there is nothing you can not overcome. No matter how painful, how devastating, how hard, how shocking. When you learn to love yourself for who you are, you can overcome anything.
You’re entitled to grieve. Sometimes life hurts us. It cuts us so deep. We are allowed to fall apart, and then we have to put ourselves back together, happier and better than we ever were before.
There are so many things in life that lots of people have to complain about, to be upset about, with a valid reason to do so. Complain about It, grieve about it, get it all out, take as long as you need, but don’t take forever, if you take forever you’ll never heal, you have a choice when to end the grieving process and start to move on. This can be extremely hard when the narcissist is throwing everything they can at you, and you’re allowed to grieve as you go through the process of creating a happier you, you’re allowed a couple of steps back, you’re allowed to ask for help and support. You’re allowed to heal and move on.
You’re allowed to lay in your bed and cry, and you’re allowed to feel weak, then you have to move past it and use the pain to make you stronger.
Learn to love yourself again, this takes practice, mostly because of your voice inside your head, telling you things it shouldn’t be telling you. No matter how many good people around you tell you to keep going, tell you it’s not your fault, tell you that you’re worth it, that inner critic is going to put you straight back down if you allow it.
You define you, and nothing that happens to you or around you should ever invalidate you, or the fact you are more than worthy of your own love.
Create a vision of a time when you do love yourself, and you find your own inner happiness, and you’ve upscaled your own thought process to serve you. Then tell yourself you can, Practice loving yourself, practice changing your inner critic, make your inner voice positively work for you.
What you think about, you bring about. No, you didn’t bring about the abuse, you are not responsible for other people’s actions, you are only responsible for your own. Stop worrying about the past it’s in your past, don’t worry about your future or the things you can not control, work on today the present moment, use the present moment right now to stop telling yourself what could go wrong and start telling yourself what could go right, then take those steps to go out and achieve for you.
We’re allowed mistakes, learn from them and go again. Focus on the lesson, focus on finding the positive, yes when my five years old wanted to jump off a school roof and die, while his dad was threatening to make me disappear. I only saw pain, and that pain hit hard. I got up, and I got help for my son, I got help for me, I got a non-molestation order on the ex. I met some incredible people. Now my son no longer has depression or anxiety, and my ex cannot come near me or threaten me. Now I’m surrounded by people that lift each other up and help each other out. You may not see the positive at the time, keep going, keep growing and keep learning the positive will hit when the moments are gone, and you’ve found yourself again.
You now have the ability to create exactly who you want to be and how you want your life to be, you’ve just got to upscale your thought process, lose the inner critic and take those baby steps until you’re doing it.
Picture who you want to be, manifest how you want life to be from now on when you think about the good, you’ll take those steps to bring about the good. Believe in yourself and take those steps to love yourself, to become stronger, to become happier, to create a better future.
Not everything in life is easy, easy come easy go, and it’s going to take time, work and effort from you, you can be exactly who you want to be, and who you create yourself to become.
Give yourself the willpower to achieve what you want to accomplish for you. You are capable, and you are worthy of your own happiness, perseverance is key, do not give up on you.
You have the choice to change your life around, and once you start making the right choices and taking steps to achieve the change, it’ll change everything for you.
Keep going to stay strong, and you’ve got this.
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