Unveiling the Hidden Truth: Listening to Narcissists with Precision.
Narcissists are known for their manipulative and deceitful behaviour, but they often can’t help but reveal their true selves through covert confessions. These individuals have an overwhelming need for admiration and control, which leads them to disclose information about their actions, thoughts, and intentions, either directly or indirectly. In this article, we will delve into various ways narcissists covertly confess, providing clear examples of their behaviour. By understanding these covert confessions, you will be better equipped to recognise the true nature of a narcissist and protect yourself from their manipulation.
Overly Honest Claims:
Narcissists sometimes claim to have changed, admitting their past negative actions or behaviours openly. They may profess remorse for their past behaviour, promising that they are now a different person. However, it is crucial to be cautious when encountering this behaviour, as narcissists often repeat their hurtful actions and excuse themselves by stating, “You knew what I was like.” This covert confession is designed to keep you under their control while maintaining a facade of honesty and self-awareness.
Boasting About Causing Pain:
A narcissist may subtly brag about the pain they have inflicted on others. They may express it in a joking manner, trying to downplay the severity of their actions. By doing so, they seek your reaction and satisfaction in their display of power and control. Underneath their apparent amusement, however, lies an admission of their capability to hurt others. Pay attention to these seemingly harmless jokes, as they may reveal a darker side to their personality.
Expressing Malevolent Wishes:
In covert confessions, narcissists may reveal their desires for harm to befall those they have hurt. They might casually mention how they wish for their victims to experience a horrific accident or fall ill, indirectly confessing their malevolent intentions. This showcasing of sadistic thoughts serves as a reminder of their lack of empathy and their inclination to derive satisfaction from the pain of others.
Gossiping and Indirect Confessions:
Another way narcissists covertly confess is through gossiping and spreading rumours. By claiming that others are engaging in the same behaviour they are guilty of, they indirectly admit their own actions while simultaneously trying to shift the spotlight away from themselves. Their intention is to unload their guilt without facing direct consequences. Pay attention to their gossiping tactics, as they often provide hints about their own misdeeds.
Talking Badly About Their Envy:
Narcissists often struggle with envy and jealousy. One way they reveal these feelings is by speaking negatively about others who possess qualities or achievements they desire. By putting down those they envy, they indirectly confess their own insecurities and dissatisfaction with their own lives. This behaviour allows them to vent their frustrations while maintaining a sense of superiority.
Actions and Words Misalign:
Covert confessions can also be identified when narcissists’ actions and words do not align. They may claim to have certain values or principles but consistently act in contradiction to their declarations. This discrepancy between what they say and what they do is a subtle way of confessing their true motivations and intentions. By recognising these incongruences, you can see through their facade and understand their covert admissions.
Unjust Accusations and Projection:
Narcissists often engage in projection, a defence mechanism where they attribute their own negative traits or actions to someone else. They unjustly accuse you of behaviour that you are not guilty of, but it is, in fact, the narcissist who is engaging in those actions towards you. This projection serves as a covert confession, revealing their own behaviour while redirecting the blame onto their victims. By being aware of their projection tactics, you can protect yourself from their manipulation and gaslighting.
Narcissists cannot resist the urge to confess their actions, thoughts, and intentions, even if it is done covertly. Their need for control and admiration fuels their desire to gain a reaction from others. By paying close attention to their behaviour, listening carefully to their words, and recognising the subtle clues they provide, you can uncover their covert confessions. Armed with this knowledge, you can protect yourself from their manipulation, maintain your boundaries, and break free from their toxic influence.
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