The key factor to your happiness is you.
If your mind has been programmed over time to think or feel certain ways, about life, about others and about yourself, it’s your subconscious talking to you. It’s been trained to talk to you in a negative way, filling your life full of disappointment and negativity. It’s time to learn to change how you think.
The great things about your mindset are you can change it to think precisely what you want to think, and it’s a skill set of your very own.
At the start, it feels strange and extremely uncomfortable, as you are basically fighting with yourself, your own beliefs and your own thoughts, but you’ve probably been arguing against your instincts for years.
Once you take action to stop those thoughts consciously and change them for positive ones, it gets easier and easier until you one day you just realise you’re no longer fighting those negative thoughts. You’ve just got a positive mindset.
“I’m not good enough.” It needs to be “I am good enough.”
“I’ll never be happy.” It needs to be. “ I’m going to find my happiness and live it.”
Then when you’ve been following your instincts, even though at times you didn’t know what they were saying to you, life becomes so much more peaceful.
Life is hard at times, we do need to grieve our losses and let the heartbreaking emotions out, so we have the room to find the lessons, learn from them and move forward into a better life for ourselves. Some losses, deaths of good people who loved you. You have to carry their memory’s on, keep them in your heart, even if they are no longer present to touch, you can take them with you on your journey, be grateful for the good times, remember the happy times.
Beauty and happiness truly start from within. Then you can surround yourself with like-minded people for a wonderful life.
Set yourself goals, and go all out to reach them, changing gears or direction as and when needed, never give up on your passions and dreams, some things take time, never give up on yourself, if you put your mind to it, you can achieve.
If you can see another human doing something you’d like to do, it is possible.
When you start taking those steps to a happier life, you’ll soon see you’re making what you once thought impossible possible.
Keep a close eye on your mindset. Make it work with you and not against you.
The problems that exist in your mind today can never be solved with a mind that created them.
So it’s time to change up your thought process if the one you’ve got is not working for you right now.
Yes, it takes work, it takes effort, it takes time, only you can do it for your own mind, and if you want to, you will.
“Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.” – Albert Einstein
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2 thoughts on “Finding Your Happiness After Narcissistic Abuse.”
Thank you for writing this. I am stuck in the endless is it him or me circle. I’m struggling. This helped
Keep going, it gets easier and it gets better.